Lover to Lover - A Wedding Poem

Lover to Lover

I do not know why or how or from where I love you

My heart and my soul merge with yours

Our consciousness expands and shares

Abundant love with Mother Earth and the Universe

As we bare our souls and spread our wings

We come together and create this union, this oneness

We stand strong as equal parts

Yet, it is not understood where one ends and the other begins

My arms promise you a safe and sacred space

I open my heart to you trusting and loving

I take your hand and you take mine

I touch your soul and you touch mine

Together we traverse the journey called life

And, so it is.

Copyright 2013 Janelle Alex, Ph.D.

*Written for a wedding ceremony

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What Does Your Sex Dream Mean

What Do Your Sex Dreams Really Mean?

By Terry L Gillis

At some point, we've all had a sexual dream. Whether your dream was exotic and wild, strange and unsettling or gentle and romantic, there's a reason why you had this particular dream at this particular time.

"Sexual dreams reveal your desires and anxieties," says Gillian Holloway, PhD, author of Erotic Dreams. "Your subconscious uses these raw, lustful situations to sort out emotions you may not be confronting in waking life." Sure, maybe you already know dreams serve as a portal to your psyche, but you might not realize how obscure their implications can be.

Often sexual dreams are just a medium to understand one's inner self, desire or even passion, which is absent from the conscious level of the mind due to external factors such as suppression. In our society the skewed outlook on matters of sex makes it a taboo topic for discussion.

Sexual dreams may be a means to compensate for what is lacking in real life. To take an example, there was a saint who had renounced everything, followed austerity and shunned women. He started having recurring erotic dreams and was confused at his response. A closer look by a counsellor revealed that this was his way of balancing his inner and outer self. The dreams in question were his way to fulfil his sexual needs and yet manage to follow celibacy in real life. Applying morality to dreams would be, of course, unfair.

These types of dreams can also provide the dreamer with a neutral space where she can go beyond her inhibitions and overcome her fears regarding sex or certain behaviours. Certain behavioural change that a person is skeptical about adopting in waking life will sometimes manifest in dreams, and in most cases is a precursor to, or sign for, changes to follow.

Sexual dreams are rarely literal. Though you might hope that last night's dream of you and Drew Barrymore was a precognitive dream, a view of future events, it probably isn't. Sex dreams, and most dreams for that matter, are metaphors, or perhaps similes, and highly symbolic. They give you a picture, an image, of what a situation is like or can be compared to. If, in your dream, you are feeling pressured to have sex, take a look at your waking life and see where you are feeling pressured or by whom.

You need to remember that dreams should be understood in their context. If a person dreams of having sex in a car, it might imply that he wants to own the car-sex becomes a symbol for ownership. If a dreamer dreams of making love to a stranger in an unfamiliar place, this may be suggesting that she is looking for something new to be introduced into her relationship, or that she is estranged from her own sexuality.

The way the dream made you feel and its correlation with some incident in your recent past will aid in understanding it and its message.

Sex dreams are as common and natural as the physical sexual act. Such dreams shouldn't disturb us, but rather they should be seen as a call for introspection and a deeper look at what's being re-presented. Dreams always come in service of our greater good, at a time when the subject of the dream needs to be addressed. Dreams are our very own, private therapists. And they don't cost us a dime.

Terry L. Gillis, a.k.a The Dream Lady, invites you to visit her comprehensive mind and dreaming site at [http://www.thedreamladyonline.com] Take your time and explore all that the site has to offer: visit the library, read the most recent articles, subscribe to the free monthly newsletter, The Nocturnal Times, and much more.

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Soul Families, Soul Clusters

A little insight...

Soul Family: Souls that are very close to you.  You might compare them to your immediate family on Earth.  Your soul family are the souls that are the closest to you.  During incarnation you may not get along with them because they are likely to teach you the most profound lessons and you them.  But, they are also those people that we meet and simply know we know them somehow.  We may wonder how can I know him/her.  Yet, you simply know you do.

Soul Cluster:  This is the group of souls that are close to you, but not as close.  Compare them to your extended family.  You may have a ton of cousins, aunts, uncles, etc., but may not be as close to them as your parents, siblings.  It all depends.  This is just an analogy.  There are an infinite number of soul clusters perhaps.  They make up Galactic families.  

Galactic Families:  They are like communities.  Groups of soul clusters that are closer to one another.

So, this little tidbit today is just something for you to chew on and ponder.  Is it exactly the truth for everyone?  Actually, I don't think so.  But, it certainly is for a whole slew though!

Love to you all,

Janelle

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Soul Mate Or Twin Flame - What is The Difference

**Here is a look at what soul mates and twin flames are.  Your thoughts? 

Twin Flame Or Soul Mate - What's the Difference?

By Daniella Breen

What is A Soulmate?

Soul mates are those lovers who as soon as we meet, it's like we're old friends, or old lovers - there's often plenty of passion, lots of joy and it feels wonderful to be with them. After a while of being together though, things often start to go wrong, or you feel like you're in an old familiar pattern that is holding you back.

Soul mates are those lovers, who we've had as lovers and friends in many lifetimes previous. They are dear, familiar and often comfortable, but they also usually come with their own set of unresolved issues - from our times together. This is a wonderful opportunity to resolve and clear karma by resolving the issue once and for all. Once you've cleared the karma, you may find that the relationship becomes wonderful and you can live happily ever after. Or you may find that you lose interest, whatever had bound you together for so long, appears to have vanished. That's okay, it just means that you achieved what you wanted and now it's time to move onward.

What is a Twin Flame?

Twin Flame is quite literally your other half. This is the being that separated from you way back at the start of your journey, thousands and thousands of years ago. It has always been very rare for Twin Flames to come together here on Earth - however, recently, as a part of our journey back to the Light, increasing numbers of lightworkers are coming together with their Twin Flame to join forces and unite the world.

Of course, everyone desires to be with their Twin Flame! It's a romantic ideal, your perfect other half. You assume that everything will be alright when that happens. But in reality, you are still two individuals here on earth, no matter how well connected you are so you will still have issues to deal with and the relationship will still take devotion and work.

Also, you cannot assume that you are meant to meet your twin flame here. It may not be a part of your path. It is perfectly wonderful working through any issues in relationships you may have and finding and connecting with someone who is not your twin flame but a lover who is wanting to commit to your life together.

Actions to Attract Your Perfect Partner

You must clear anything that is blocking you from a wonderful relationship. If you have had mostly (or only) unhealthy, unloving, unhappy relationships, then it's likely that there are buried beliefs within you that attract this.

Make sure you:

1. Believe and know that you deserve only love

2. Tolerate nothing less than the love you desire

3. Heal all damage from past relationships

4. Consider, and if appropriate get healing for any past life or childhood trauma

Once the slate is clean, start focusing on your ideal love. Write about what he/she's like, how they think, what they feel like, go into as much detail as you can, take as long as you can to get clear.

Finally, spend a bit of time meditating on connecting with him - you'll be connecting with his higher self - so let him know how you choose to be treated in a relationship and if he's ready for such a relationship, then you are too.

Daniella has been working in the field of Consciousness Mentoring and Energy Work since 1997. Her core drive is working with others to bring them into True Empowerment in their life through re-aligning them with their Soul and Sacred Consciousness. If you want to learn more about shifting into your Soul Purpose and other Consciousness work, Daniella holds a regular Consciousness Call - a free teleconference that you can sign up for here - http://www.theconsciousnesscall.com

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Requirement of a Successful Marriage

"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person."
Mignon McLaughlin 

What Is Considered Sinful in the West Isn't Really From Scripture

"Much of what the Western world considers to be sinful has little do with religious scripture.  The catalogue of sexual sins was largely invented by a small number of men living through the last years of the Roman Empire (c.4th-5th centuries AD) - the Fathers of the Church." 

- Clifford Bishop, Sex and Spirit: An Illustrated Guide to Sacred Sexuality

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Grow or Die...or Maybe Roar

"If we try to remain the same and refrain from growing, to accommodate someone else's need for us to stay the same, the only long-term outcome is resentment, which kills whatever emotion there was there. Real love never restricts us nor demands that we stop developing."

-- Brenda Davies

**This quote inspired yesterday's post at Reconnect With Your Soul.  Check it out.

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Power Up Your Sex

Get The First Sexy Challenge Print Book

Sexy Challenges: Sacred and Sensual Experiences for Lovers (Volume 1)

We are almost getting ready to start work on the second issue of our print version of Sexy Challenges.  However you can still pick up the first issue now at Amazon.  Don't delay start getting ready for the release of the new book by completing all 50 of these challenges before you get the next book.

Click the link above to start your journey of sacred and sensual experiences. 

Description:

Sex can be just sex. The mechanics of it can be planned out and the outcome you desire can be achieved as a purely physical act. It is possible that this can leave you feeling wonderful and physically connected with your partner. But, what if it could be so much more? What if the pleasure you feel now could be doubled, tripled or increased beyond belief? Would you want to experience that? Sexy Challenges can take you to a place where sensual love and sacred sex combine to form an experience that lifts you to new heights. Your experiences can move beyond just the physical. You might be surprised to learn that each orgasm you share with your beloved actually contains the vastness of the Universe. Inside this exciting book, you will discover fifty sexy challenges. These encompass a wide range of experiences. Through the fun, laughter, communication, romance and passion of these challenges the connection with your partner can become more powerful than you ever expected. You can touch the untouchable. The god or goddess within you can be revealed.

Sex After Mid-Life...5 Reasons It Can Be Super Exciting and Hot

Sex After Mid-Life

5 Reasons It Can Be Super Exciting and Hot!

American culture teaches us to believe that we are only sexy in our 20s, 30s and maybe – if you are lucky, 40s.  We are taught that having an active and exciting sex life is something that we will no longer have once we hit middle age and beyond.  Well, screw that (pun intended)! 

I am going to share with you 5 reasons why sex after middle age can be even hotter, sexier, spicier, and more exciting than when you were younger.  Yes, sometimes there are medical conditions that can affect your sex life, but you can seek help for those.  You can find natural methods to assist with physical conditions as well as finding assistance within in western medicine.  It can be freaking amazing and here’s why. 

1.    Experience!  - Okay, you have gone through your teens and 20s trying to figure out what the heck all the fuss was about.  Hopefully, you enjoyed a lot of wonderful lovemaking during those years and had a loving committed partner for part (if not most) of that time.  Then, you moved into your 30s and 40s and hopefully, still had wonderful sex around having kids and a career.  Well, guess what?  All these years gave you a lot of experience.  You had the opportunity to figure out what you do and don’t like when it comes to gettin’ busy.  Boy, oh boy, that can come in handy now!

2.    No Kiddos! – Most likely, if you had children, they are grown or at least not little anymore.  So, now you don’t have to worry about little ones bursting into your bedroom and there is a very good chance that you can get back to making love in any room in the house.  Plus, you aren’t as apt to be stressed and worn out due to running them to this practice and that event and trying to help get their homework done.  Yay!  Stress level has dropped!

3.    More Time!  - By now you are hopefully more established in your career and don’t need to spend so many hours working.  As mentioned above, you aren’t as likely to be running kids everywhere.  There is time for the two of you again.  Time to date (whether or not you are already in a relationship or looking for a new one).  The more time you spend together the more likely you are to bond on a deeper level and then….yep – rip each other’s clothes off and spend some naked time together!

4.    Extra Money! – In those earlier years, your finances may have been a bit tighter.  Now you are, hopefully, better off financially and have more disposable income to spend on dates, romantic excursions, clothes/shoes that make you feel sexy, and even more adult toys/lubes.  *Ah, reflect back to “experience”: you know what you like or you are more willing to find out now – so, spend some money on high quality sex toys and enjoy hotter, new, different, intimate play with your lover.

5.    Sexy & Healthy! – The more pleasurable sex (particularly in a committed relationship) you enjoy the more oxytocin that is released into the body.  This is the “feel good” hormone.  It eases pain and just makes you happier in general.  And, even more exciting is the fact that as oxytocin is released in the body more oxytocin receptors are created!  Woo Hoo!  That means the more sex you have the better and better you can feel.  Of course, on top of all that is the fact that making love is a spiritual connection even if you never intend for it to be.  Therefore, not only does your physical body become healthier and happier, but so does your soul.  How can you beat that?

So, for those who have told you that having a great sex life past middle age is practically hopeless, you now have five reasons why they are wrong.  Experience!  No kiddos!  More time!  Extra money!  Sexy & healthy – physically and spiritually!  We typically live so much longer nowadays.  Take the time to enjoy this second half of your life and fill it with playful experiences – physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  Honor your life and your sweetie’s by engaging in more powerful, playful passion.

Janelle Alex, Ph.D. © 2013  

Co-Founder of Sexy Challenges

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Sunglasses Do They Make Your More Sexy or Not?

Question:

What do you feel is more sexy a person wearing sunglasses or being able to see their eyes?  I am sure there are very different opinions on this, however it is my opinion that the eyes are very sexy and covering them short changes your partner from seeing a beautiful part of you.  

Remember that your eyes are the windows to your soul and don't you want to share that with your partner.  

Spiritual Awakening - How to Unlock Your Full Brain Capacity

**Note: I can't say that I agree with everything in this article.  But, the point is to give you a different perspective and something to ponder as well as chat about with your sweetie.  Could lead to some very deep conversation. - JA

Spiritual Awakening - How to Unlock Your Full Brain Capacity

By Tomas Coimin

'Always remember nothing is as it seems because life can be very inspiring when we shed our limitations... thus we live... '

There are three sides to you a) human being, b) spirit enjoying the experience of being human. However, because of nonsense we have separated from spirit but now we shall reconnect and c) Divine Light heart centre which is your link with spirit and universal intelligence i.e. LOVE...

Frankly there is no such thing as spiritual awakening because in essence you are awakening the human side to the realisation that spirit is always present. You are not spiritual, ever, you are spirit the rest is semantics. You are spirit anyway so there is nothing to be but yourself.

As for full brain capacity well, that is part and parcel of being awake with spirit, thus your primary and sole concern is to realise your full potential through spirit. Do not get bogged down in hyper-nonsense but accept the endless possibilities that shall unfold as you grow with spirit. You shall find out too that what you as a human think of as full brain capacity is something else entirely.

However, it is imperative to possess optimal psychological health, as we have been taught by Maslow if we are to enjoy and experience awakening. In Maslow's view, self-actualized people can have many peak experiences throughout a day while others have those experiences less frequently.

If you epitomise Maslow's findings then you are rather comfortable differentiating truth from bullology plus you are quite creative and spontaneous. Besides you shall not be too influenced by societies conventions thus you shall be free to discover and become an awakened enlightened spirit.

a) Meditate and never stop listening even while you work because you are going to develop meditation in motion.

b) To awaken ones spirit connectedness with all the added benefits requires total annihilation of experiences and teachings learned previously. One must shed all attachments to every living thing and then some. What in fact you are actually doing is stepping aside but with the knowing of relevance, thus your perspective is aligned with spirit not the human side of you.

c) One must be as blank as a page and as clear as a sparkling pane of glass in order to appreciate alternative outlooks that shed light on our endless possibilities. Then with new eyes, eyes of the awakened senses, one begins to know what previously was unseen.

d) To assist your journey read as many illuminating books by notable authors like Wallace B Wattles, James Allen, Alan Watts, Adyashanti, and St. Germain, Shakespeare etc. Of course study scriptures with an absolutely open mind guided through discernment and creativity. Remember all scriptures are written symbolically not literally; thus be wise with discernment.

e) One remarkable work is found in Sacred Texts written by Manly P. Hall titled 'THE SECRET TEACHINGS OF ALL AGES'. This is one of the most illuminating books imaginable and worthy of studying if you truly desire a broader comprehension of the machinations carried on through the centuries and the reasons we are currently brainwashed by irresponsible religions, politicians and industry.

f) A surprising book I just found through the voice of a two thousand year old YEW titled 'The Story of Yew' by Guido Mina di Sospiro is also worth reading. This book is filled with creative philosophies but gives us a compelling account of how humanity has ignored the overall picture of nature at our peril.

g) What we learn as we awaken is the absolute necessity to address our behaviours towards our planet and if our journey is not self-centred then we shall grow exponentially with the assistance of the entire picture of nature. Working with trees and other plants is highly recommended as is working and spending time with all facets of nature because essentially we are nature; undivided and united en masse.

h) To know Oneness and accept that there is no such thing as superiority / inferiority but unity is a humungous step towards awakening the full extent of spirit.

i) We are not awakening our full brain capacity per se but unlocking the doors that blocked our communion with Universal knowledge. Thus, we merge as it were with DIVINE INTELLIGENCE and appear as if our brain has woken up but in reality it has become one with Divine or Universal LOVE. LOVE is everything, Love is Universal Intelligence; thus let us know LOVE.

Namaste! May wisdom guide your steps through this wondrous illuminating experience.

Awakening is not a trip to the supermarket or a minute in a religious house - it is opening the page to your true self and the first of many that indicate the truth not perceived truth. Become the conqueror you are born to be and make the commitment to live with hugs, smiles, love and gratitude as the veil of confusion lifts. Thank you. Namaste! Tomas may be reached through e-mail: selfesteemawareness@gmail.com

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Find the Key to Your Heart & Soul

We can't turn back time and undo the things that we have done or that have been done to us.  But, if we lock the door to our heart and to our soul and throw away the key, we can't continue growing either.

Pick up your key, insert it into the lock, turn it, and slowly and gently open the door.  

Reach out your hand to the world, the future that you have yet to hold.  

If need be, simply peek out the door.  When you are ready take those first few steps and see just what possibilities, what opportunities are waiting for you.

Just opening the door will allow fresh air to flow into your heart and soul.  

Is it frightening?  To some - very much so.

Is it worth it?  YES!

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5 Minutes a Day to Change Your Life!

You can change your experience simply by giving yourself five minutes a day. 

Sit up tall.  

Close your eyes.

Place a half smile on your face (no matter how you feel).

Focus on your breathing.

Consciously relax the muscles in your face.

Relax the muscles in your neck and shoulders.

Relax your stomach.

Relax your arms and hands.

Melt into your legs.

Melt into the floor.

Take a final deep breath and release it slowly.

Slowly open your eyes and come back to yourself.

Taking care of YOU ultimately takes care of your relationship and family too!

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Sexual Energy is the Life Force

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We talked about how sexual energy is the life force.  Yes, making love can create babies, but there is so much more to it than that.  That is far from the only life and creativity that can occur by making love. Listen in as we talk about the big bang, the valley orgasm, and changing the world by making love to your sweetheart.

Honoring you, Rob and Janelle of Sexy Challenges
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Sex and Your Soul

The physical health benefits of sex are widely known.  In fact, information on the mental and emotional health benefits are commonly talked about, too.  But, what is rarely mentioned is how you can enhance your connection to your soul and to your lover’s soul through lovemaking.  Orgasmic and sexual energy opens a gateway into the spiritual dimension.

Being aware of the sensations in your body as well as any out-of-body sensations during lovemaking and/or at the point of orgasm offers you the opportunity to direct the sexual energy toward a goal.  Your goal may be any range of things from physical healing to a new job to deepening your intuition and connection to spirit.

As you likely already know, everything is made up of energy.  Making passionate love to your sweetheart draws together a plethora of powerful orgasmic energy.  It is this phenomenally influential and magickal energy that you can learn to focus towards those amazing things you are wishing to magnetize to you. 

Focusing on opening a spiritual gateway and having a goal set for your orgasmic energy doesn’t take away from your sexual experience.  In fact, it can actually deepen the bond between you and your lover and heighten your sensuality.  Instead of getting lost in just the physical pleasure, you become more fully present and open to the sacredness of your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual bond between the two of you.

Tapping into the ultimate creative source through sex within a committed loving relationship allows a spiritual channel to open.  Your creativity will be enhanced, your self-esteem and confidence will expand, you will be able to gain deeper clarity, your problem solving skills will increase, you will move beyond your current pleasure boundaries and your sex life, your emotional life and your spirituality will be stimulated.  

In these modern times, more and more people are seeking ways to expand their consciousness.  They want to connect to their souls and have better access to their intuition.  There are a vast number of spiritual practices that can help you do this – reconnecting with nature; meditating; yoga; shamanic journeying; having a session with a channeling expert, trance dancing and much more.  In ancient times, it was understood that sacred sexuality was a spiritual practice as well.  Over time, fear and disbelief have hidden this beautiful knowledge from daily life, but it is past time to remember how profound and extraordinary sacred lovemaking truly is.

You may be wondering how to access this if you are not currently in a loving, committed relationship.  Can you open that gateway alone?  Can you direct sexual energy and draw amazing things into your life by yourself?  The answer is yes.  Yet at the same time, it is important to point out that when two people are creating or drawing sexual energy together and together they focus on a specific outcome the results are exponentially more powerful.   

Whether you learn to engage in sacred sexual and magickal practices alone or together with your beloved you will activate your Divine power.  You will potentially gain access to deeper intuition, your Spirit guides, past life experiences, and healing.  You will discover a sense of joyful bliss that you can tap into whenever you want it or need it.  And, the synchronistic and serendipitous events that begin to show up in your daily life will leave you in awe and wonder.

Does this sound similar to the Law of Attraction method?  Well, they are similar, but at the same time quite different.  Learning and implementing sacred sexual and magickal practices goes much deeper than the basic concepts of the Law of Attraction.  When you are in a space in which you can blend your spirit with your lover’s and merge your sexual and orgasmic energy together the results are – well, out of this world.

The most amazing part is that you don’t have to learn special positions or special physical techniques to bring these phenomena into your life.  It is about learning to open your heart and open your soul to positive and light-filled experience.  It is about learning to connect with and then collaborate with your soul and your lover’s soul.  Anyone can learn to direct sexual energy through a variety of magickal methods.  Therefore, it doesn’t matter who you are, you have access to the Divine, to the Universe, to Spirit, to God, to the Creative Source just like everyone else.  

Janelle Alex, Ph.D. & Rob Alex, M.Sc. – Co-Founders of Sexy Challenges

© 2013

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