Monday, September 30, 2013

Talking About Senior Sex

We are excited to share with you one of our colleague's videos.  

Joan Price is one of the co-authors of a newly released book we are a part of.

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Saturday, September 28, 2013

Fan Favorites of Sexy Challenges

Have you picked up any new Sexy Challenges?  Here are some fan favorites! 
Grab a couple...or grab the compilation of the first 50!

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Friday, September 27, 2013

How Far Would You Go For Your Partner?

**Pulled from the archives...

How Far Would You Go For Your Partner?

Expert Author Janelle Alex, Ph.D.
In February 2011, I was in California at a weeklong seminar. I was to be gone a total of nine days. Rob, my partner and husband, was at home 2300 miles away. Before I left he seemed to be coming down with a nasty cold or some type of flu. Because of my location and my busy schedule it was difficult to call; I usually just texted back and forth with him. When I did speak to him I noticed that this cold/flu "thing" was really taking a toll. On top of that a record-breaking ice storm had hit. My next to last day in California I called home again to talk to him.
My sweet love - a man who never gets sick - was so ill and coughing this strange, high-pitched cough that he could barely talk to me. He and the kids had lost electricity due to the storm so they were staying at my parents'. I hung up from Rob and called my mother's cell. "Mom, does Rob need to go to the hospital?" She informed me that she had tried to get him to go the previous night! She told me that he was so sick he couldn't put his sweatshirt on by himself - she had to help him! I told her to have my father take him to the emergency room immediately. I called Rob's cell again and told him in more than a few choice words that he was going to the hospital right then - no ifs, ands, or buts (maybe I was harsh - but I felt helpless and deeply afraid). Remember, there was an ice storm - inches of ice on the car and extremely treacherous driving conditions. It took over an hour to reach the hospital that is only 10 minutes from my parents' home. My next step was to find a way to get home! Up in the mountains I was an hour's drive from the airport and a seven-hour flight from home - no nonstop flights from my location.
The events that transpired at the airports were challenging to say the least, but I encountered some of the most wonderful people to help me. I was able to make my plane connection with just an hour to spare before they shut down the Houston, TX airport due to snow!! And, I was able to land in Indianapolis on schedule with only two runways open! A close friend picked me up and drove me to the hospital.
The end result was a blood clot in my husband's jugular vein and a developing abscess near his right collarbone. He had to have surgery to drain the abscess and heavy-duty antibiotics. He spent a week in the hospital!! Then, he spent the next month with a picc line in his arm so that he could take powerful antibiotics intravenously at home and six months on blood thinners. The specialists were never able to decide what brought this about. No one knows if the blood clot developed first or the infection - the chicken or the egg?
The point is that we sometimes deal with things in our lives that we never expected. Some of these can pack quite a punch. I am pondering this experience today because I have been thinking about a movie I just watched yesterday. We might not expect great struggle and death defying feats regularly, but others know no different.
In 2005, March of the Penguins was shared with the world. This is a very powerful film. What amazes me the most is not only what these Emperor penguins go through to find a mate and produce offspring, but the loving tenderness they seem to share with one another. These amazing beings of nature travel over 70 miles of ice and snow to return to where they were born. They search through the thousands of penguins until they find a fitting mate. The pair off in cuddled up pairs prior to mating. Once they are blessed with an egg, they must delicately trade it from the mother's feet to the father's feet. In a matter of moments the freezing temperatures, which are on average -72°F, will steal away the life within the egg if they are not successful. The female penguin must return the 70 plus miles to the sea to regain her weight and bring back food for the new little penguin.
As the males protect their precious eggs and wait out the winter for the females' return they huddle together in an effort to stay warm. They take turns being in the center. This grouping of penguins reminds me of the blended spirit Rob and I, as Relationship Guides, talk so often about. These compassionate and loving father's become winter warriors as they blend their energies and spirits to form a mass of continually moving penguin bodies that almost becomes its own being. They go nearly four months without food from when they first started their journey. They are extraordinarily cold and near starving, but they continue to protect and provide for their babies.
Upon the females' return the precarious exchange of baby penguin from one parent's feet to the other parent's feet takes place again - just in reverse this time. Now, the males must make the huge journey to return to the sea and eat before they surrender to death due to lack of food. The mother penguins remain with their babies protecting them and feeding them. It will be a couple more months before the females leave the baby penguins alone and return as well. Eventually, the little penguins are big enough to make their own journey to the sea and the cycle continues.
Throughout this dangerous journey every year some, both adults and babies, succumb to the cold or the lack of food. Sadly, some of the babies don't live long enough to even meet their mothers. To live life, to continue existence they must risk it all time and time again.
I ask you - would you travel over 70 miles in devastatingly cold temperatures to find a mate and create new life? Would you be willing to entrust this tenuous new life with your partner? Okay, this scenario might be extreme. I mean, after all, you aren't a penguin - right?
Instead, I ask you to consider:
• How far you would go for your partner?
• Even more importantly, do you consider the little things you do for each other?
• Do you appreciate him/her?
• Are you grateful for the little things let alone the big things?
• Would you drop everything and be there if your partner really needed you to?
Maybe you won't have to worry about a major event, a frightening event or miles and miles of snow and ice, but think about how important it is to be there for your partner everyday. Sometimes we just need to stop and listen - really listen to what he/she is saying. We don't necessarily need to do anything other than just being present, perhaps giving a hug or offering a shoulder.
Loving another and blending your spirit with another is a beautiful experience. And, it can help you weather any storm.
Janelle Alex Ph.D., Spiritual Teacher, Director at Sacred Garden Spiritual Center and Co-Founder of Sexy Challenges.

Thursday, September 26, 2013

10 Romantic Date Ideas

10 Romantic Date Ideas To Warm Up Your Relationship

10 Romantic Date Ideas
From first dates to 50th wedding anniversaries, everyone wants to be swept off their feet and taken on a romantic date that will be remembered forever. Dates can be hard to plan, especially when factors like limited time and tight budgets are considered, but great dates don't have to take months to be perfected or thousands of dollars to execute. Spending some thoughtful time with someone you are attracted to or in love with can be the most romantic thing in the world no matter what you are doing, and these romantic dates will open up opportunities to talk so that you can discover what you want in your partner.
Here are 10 romantic date ideas that are guaranteed to get you that good night kiss. Use these ideas for dating free of worry.
Picnic Outdoors

There are so many romantic dating sites outdoors, and this romantic date can be as elaborate as you want it to be. Hire a waiter to serve the two of you at a pre-scouted spot that you've prepared with a table, chairs, flowers and full dinner service. Have chilled champagne available and chocolate covered strawberries to eat for dessert while watching the sun set. Or simply grab take out from a favorite restaurant and eat on a blanket, snuggled close together with a couple beers. This date is great for everyone because it is completely customizable to every personality and view of romance.
Visit a museum

Museums are filled with history and beauty that can be very emotion provoking. Plus, the general quiet atmosphere of a museum will force the two of you to speak closely and in hushed tones which is very intimate and can get those physical sparks flying.
Plan a scavenger hunt

Scavenger hunts are full of fun and surprise, and they can be made specific to the two of you if you already have a history together. Write clues pertaining to inside jokes or previous dates and have a fun present waiting at the end or make the hunt lead to a romantic dinner location.
Campfire on the beach or under the stars

Snuggle up together under a blanket and roast marshmallows while watching for shooting stars on this romantic date. This time together will facilitate talking so that you can discover what you should know about the person you are dating. Your physical chemistry will also benefit as you sit close together in the dark. It's intimate and inexpensive; plus, what's more romantic than a night under the stars?
Watch the sunrise

This romantic date idea is perfect for the early risers. Pick a beautiful local spot that has a great view of the rising sun like a bridge or an overlook on a mountain, and bring pastries or bagels and freshly brewed coffee or creamy hot chocolate. This morning date opens up possibilities for being able to spend the rest of the day together.
Go to a drive-in

Drive-in movies are classically romantic. They are perfect for first dates or 100th dates because they give you something to do if you don't want to talk, but they also allow you the freedom of speaking to each other without bothering the people next to you.
Get dressed up and have drinks in a fancy hotel lobby

Many high end hotels have great restaurants and bars that are elegantly decorated or have a fun theme. Getting dressed up to have drinks in one of these lobby bars feels special and romantic because it's something that people rarely do.
Shop for ingredients and make dinner together

Go to the grocery store or a local farmer's market armed with a list or simply a sense of adventure and pick out ingredients for a romantic dinner. Then make dinner together before sharing a night in with low lights and burning candles. Cooking together is extremely romantic and it will most likely cause a few laughs.
Go whale watching

This romantic date takes a little prep work and scheduling, but being on the ocean together and catching a glimpse of these elegant sea creatures will make a memory that won't soon be forgotten.
Take a dance class

Every style of dance is being offered as a class now that you and your date can take together. Spice things up with Salsa or Tango lessons, or keep it classy with traditional ballroom techniques. Either way, it's an excuse to do something new and fun that will bring you physically and emotionally closer together.
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Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Q&A: What Can You Do If Your Lover Is A Lot Bigger Than You?

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Tuesday, September 24, 2013

10 Rules for a Happy Relationship

Top Ten Rules For A Happy Relationship - Follow These To Happiness

We all want that fairy tale story when we enter a new relationship. In the beginning it's all laughs and giggles. We wake up every morning anticipating another day to see he or she's face, or hear their voice. No one gets into a relationship and thinks "A year from now it will change?" The fact of the matter is it does change; it's up to you to save it. It's not all rain drops and gum drops. Most relationships fail because people are so quick to give up on each other over the littlest things when they're not as happy as much as they were in the beginning. Relationships aren't easy and I'm not going to pretend that are! When it boils down to it we all want happiness.
There are a lot of things you can do to save your relationship and keep it on the fast track so let's begin. I'm going to tell you 10 things to keep a happy relationship, some of these tips maybe obvious, but if you were using them to your advantage you wouldn't be reading this article right? So here we go 10 rules to having a happy relationship:
1. Patience - Learn to always be positive in your relationship and practice patience. By patience I mean learn to comprise with your partner even when you feel that you have none left. Be patient
2. Communication - One major problem in relationships is communication. Communication is one of the key things to keep a relationship strong and going. Always express how you feel good or bad. Tell your partner and then discuss the issue and resolve it. You will be amazed at how much you can learn from each other by communicating.
3. Trust - Let me just say this without trust a relationship will fail. If you are in a relationship you must have this. Don't assume anything, always communicate like I stated in step 2. Insecurity and jealousy is not safe in a relationship. Being a mother or a father to your partner won't work. If you have any doubts ask, but don't assume. Trust your partner, if your partner values your trust then you shouldn't be worried about anything trust me.
4. Friends - Be friends with your partner. Learn about the stuff he or she likes and take a liking to it. So even if you're not really interested act like it. Be their buddy first, a relationship is not a job, let loose and have fun together you'd be surprised.
5. Spontaneous - Do random, unexpected things together. Surprise your partner with a night out or with random gifts or text or calls. Being spontaneous shows that you want to add excitement to your relationship and that he or she is worth trying new things with and for.
6. Space - No one likes someone who is always in their space. Give your partner space; you don't always have to be together every day. Give yourself enough space to miss each other. Go out with friends from time to time. You don't always have to be with your partner 24/7 it gets boring and that's how arguments occur. Learn to miss each other.
7. Don't Criticize - Never past judgment on your partner. You are their biggest supporter; learn to be there for them even if you disagree. Agree to disagree for them.
8. Public Display of Affection - Showing that you love your partner in public means a lot to them. Grabbing his or her hand, putting your arm around them or even kissing them shows them that you really love them and don't care who sees and knows
9. Sex - You thought I wasn't going to mention this? Yes, sex plays a major part in a relationship. So don't be boring! Learn what your partner likes and doesn't like and do it. Role play, dirty talk, even watching porn together it's erotic. To me the more spontaneous it is the better. Sex and relationships go hand in hand.
10. Privacy- Learn to keep your relationship problems to yourself. Never let outsiders no your business and put things in your head. People always have an opinion good or bad. Only you know what you and your partner have so no outsider can tell you otherwise. Don't put your problems on social networks many relationships fail due to social networks. Keep your private life off the internet.
Relationships aren't perfect but love is a beautiful thing so share it.
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Sunday, September 22, 2013

How to Feng Shui Your Love Life & Bring Romance Back

Feng Shui For Love - How to Feng Shui Your Love Life and Bring Romance Back

Try these simple and practical Feng Shui tips to improve your love life and relationships in general. Feng Shui must-haves for those looking for love.
If you have been unlucky in love so far, move the furniture in your bedroom around. This will change and refresh the flow of energy in your room. You should move your bed to a different location at least once a year so that your love life does not get stale.
Do not position your bed so that when you sleep you are facing the bathroom. If you sleep facing the washroom, you are likely to be involved in messy love triangles. Even if you are in a relationship, facing the bathroom might make you prone to arguments or tension with your partner. Plus you might be prone to urological problems such as bladder infections. If you cannot move the bed, you can block the flow of energy with a screen or lat the very least, keep your bathroom door shut at all times and hang a plant in each upper corner by the bathroom door.
Put two objects of a similar size on the bedside table. This represents you and your (future) loved one. This could be almost anything such as a pair of candles or a set of vases or ornaments. Feel free to have more than one representation of a pair such as picture of two birds on your wall.
Place a crystal close to your bedroom window. This will bring the colors of the rainbow into your room.
Keep bathroom and closet doors closed.
Open your windows once a day to let out the old energy and allow the new energy to come in.
For all-round good feng shui, a water plant is an absolute must-have. Bamboos, rubber plants and all varieties of palms are good choices. Look after the plant well so it is healthy and vibrant. Put the plant next to your front door. Don't put any thorny plants near your front door.
Remove any items from past relationships such as photographs, momentos, gifts and clothes. Basically keep anything that reminds you of a past, failed relationship out of sight. Buy new sheets, pillows and duvets for a fresh start. Keep your house uncluttered. If your house is too full of stuff, how can anyone enter it?
Use this feng shui love tips to bring new, positive energy to your home.
Gemma Swansburg is a writer/researcher who wishes you happiness and good feng shui. Read Gemma's latest article, a Luminess Tan reviewfeaturing the at-home self tanning system highly rated by Allure Magazine. For a great trial and other offers and free info on the Luminess Tan system and other airbrush tanning equipment, visit her site at
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Saturday, September 21, 2013

Do You Have Erotic Intelligence?

We recently interviewed Amara Charles, Sex & Intimacy Expert.
We talked about Quodoushka, sacred sexuality and her new program,
The Art of Erotic Intelligence.

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Thursday, September 19, 2013

Cell Phone -- Make It Sexy

What might you type to create a sexy or erotic texting experience with your sweetie?  Well, you could create a sexy story together.  Each creating the next line or idea.

Here is an example from the Sexy Challenge: Cell Phone Erotica

TEXT #1 - "It was a hot day in Texas, so hot that even the pool Suzy was sitting by felt like bath water."

TEXT #2 - "Suzy pulled an ice cube from her drink and slowly worked it around her chest to feel its cool wet touch."

Let's jump to TEXT #5 - "Suzy saw John watching and became even more adventurous with the ice." 

You can create some serious anticipation if the two of you work together.  Pick up this Sexy Challenge to help get your started!   (Or via iTunes.)

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

A Date...with Kids??

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Monday, September 16, 2013

Why You Need To Let Go of Toxic Relationships

*Apply some of these principles to your romantic relationship.

Why You Need to Let Go of Toxic Relationships

Expert Author Marquita A Herald
I am currently making some changes in my life. If you don't hear from me again, you're one of them. ~Author Unknown
Do you find yourself keeping good news from a friend because they always manage to make you feel unworthy of whatever good fortune comes your way? Worse yet, they actually make you feel guilty for your achievements by repeatedly harping on about how "lucky" you are, while life has been so unfair to them.
Maybe you've begun to realize how drained you feel after spending time with a friend, but continue to put up with the negativity for no other reason than you've been friends for so long...
Toxic relationships can lead to stress, depression, anxiety and even medical problems.
Did you know that negative relationships can be just as toxic to your health as fast food or a toxic environment? In a long term study that followed more than 10,000 subjects for an average of 12.2 years, researchers discovered that subjects in negative relationships were at a greater risk for developing heart problems, including a fatal cardiac event, than their counterparts whose close relationships were not negative.
Of course few relationships are harmonious 24/7, so how do you really know you're in a toxic relationship? The term toxic relationship refers to interactions with others that are consistently negative and draining. The nature of these relationships is defined by patterns, not by one-time or occasional lapses in the give and take that is the essence of a healthy friendship.
The first step in confronting toxic relationships is to identify them. See if any of these examples sound familiar to you.
  • They often criticize or make fun of those people closest to you.
  • They complain about everything, are never at fault for anything, and repeatedly dump their problems on you.
  • You're made to feel guilty for anything and everything you have that they don't, even if their bad situation is of their own making.
  • You can never trust them to keep a secret, and if they do spill one, and you confront them, they'll claim they had no idea it was such a "big deal."
  • You find yourself rationalizing keeping the friendship for no other reason than longevity.
  • They constantly remind you of all of the 'favors' they've done for you. You're now convinced that the only reason you got a 'favor' in the first place was so that it could be held over your head.
  • They find fault with everything you say, and you're often made to feel dumb for expressing a viewpoint that differs from theirs.
  • They discourage you from trying new things, learning new skills or growing in any way.
  • Just spending time with this person leaves you feeling drained.
  • They constantly cut you off, put you down, reprimand you, or make fun of your ideas in front of others. They may even try to convince you that their criticism is for you own good.
Okay, so I don't know about you - but just going through that list made me squirm. Why would you want people like this in your life?!
Well, the truth is sometimes we're related to these people, in fact it could be good old mom and dad, along with Brother Bob, Sister Sue, and Uncle Elmo, not to mention a few close, personal friends. I am not suggesting that you to disown every negative or pessimistic person in your life; I am just asking you to be aware of the toxic effect they have on you, and to learn to protect yourself from the fallout.
Redefining Toxic Relationships
First of all, give some thought to whether or not you really need to end the friendship. Can you downgrade the relationship so you see each other less often or dilute it by seeing each other within the context of a group? Can you simply take a break (time off) to give each other a breather?
Here are a few more suggestions:
  • Keep your expectations realistic. Never make your self-worth dependent on them or confide your deepest feelings to someone who won't cherish them. Though it's better not to have to contend with this tedious ego stroking at all, if the relationship is unavoidable the best way to communicate with them is to focus on how something will benefit them.

  • Set firm limits. There are times when each of us has taken a turn feeling like a "victim" of life's cruel jokes, but again here we're talking about chronic behavior. Trying to get someone in perpetual victim mode to see the good things in life is a no win game and will exhaust you. If you can't remove them from your life all together, then do whatever you have to do to minimize time with them and remain positive.

  • If you have a chronic criticizer in your life and they launch into a rant, first address any misplaced criticism directly without becoming defensive. If it continues then simply leave the room if you can. The negative person is simply seeking to get a reaction from you.

  • If the relationship isn't very close to start with, you may decide the best thing to do will be to merely drift apart. Make yourself less accessible.

  • If you've reached the point where you feel there is nothing really to be gained by continuing the relationship, simply find the courage to cut them loose.
Get rid of the guilt.
In many cases, these are people whose needs can never be satisfied. No matter what you give, what you do, how much, or how often, will never be enough. So don't ever feel guilty about removing toxic people from your life. It doesn't matter how long you've known them, or what their relationship is to you - you don't have to make room for people who cause you pain or make you feel small. It's one thing if a person owns up to their behavior and makes an effort to change. But if someone disregards your feelings, ignores your boundaries, and continues to treat you in a harmful way, they do not deserve to be a part of your life.

Sunday, September 15, 2013

Tickle Your Toes

We go through our daily lives far too often stuck in a concrete, paved lifestyle.  We often get so busy that we miss out on the chance to simply feel the soft earth massaging the bottoms of our feet and the grass tickling us between our toes.  Grab your lover...head outside (wherever you need to) and take off your shoes for a little stroll upon our Mother Earth.  You, your sweet and Earth deserve the attention!

Get busy. Get spiritual. Laugh your ass off!
Janelle & Rob

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Saturday, September 14, 2013

You Push Each Other's Buttons

"We can perceive the power inherent in things as they are - the radiance of fire, the solidity of earth, the expansiveness of joy, the tenderness of sorrow -- only when we drop our struggles with ourselves and our experience....[Yet,] each of us has some button that our partner pushes."

Friday, September 13, 2013

What Does Your Sex Dream Mean

What Do Your Sex Dreams Really Mean?

At some point, we've all had a sexual dream. Whether your dream was exotic and wild, strange and unsettling or gentle and romantic, there's a reason why you had this particular dream at this particular time.
"Sexual dreams reveal your desires and anxieties," says Gillian Holloway, PhD, author of Erotic Dreams. "Your subconscious uses these raw, lustful situations to sort out emotions you may not be confronting in waking life." Sure, maybe you already know dreams serve as a portal to your psyche, but you might not realize how obscure their implications can be.
Often sexual dreams are just a medium to understand one's inner self, desire or even passion, which is absent from the conscious level of the mind due to external factors such as suppression. In our society the skewed outlook on matters of sex makes it a taboo topic for discussion.
Sexual dreams may be a means to compensate for what is lacking in real life. To take an example, there was a saint who had renounced everything, followed austerity and shunned women. He started having recurring erotic dreams and was confused at his response. A closer look by a counsellor revealed that this was his way of balancing his inner and outer self. The dreams in question were his way to fulfil his sexual needs and yet manage to follow celibacy in real life. Applying morality to dreams would be, of course, unfair.
These types of dreams can also provide the dreamer with a neutral space where she can go beyond her inhibitions and overcome her fears regarding sex or certain behaviours. Certain behavioural change that a person is skeptical about adopting in waking life will sometimes manifest in dreams, and in most cases is a precursor to, or sign for, changes to follow.
Sexual dreams are rarely literal. Though you might hope that last night's dream of you and Drew Barrymore was a precognitive dream, a view of future events, it probably isn't. Sex dreams, and most dreams for that matter, are metaphors, or perhaps similes, and highly symbolic. They give you a picture, an image, of what a situation is like or can be compared to. If, in your dream, you are feeling pressured to have sex, take a look at your waking life and see where you are feeling pressured or by whom.
You need to remember that dreams should be understood in their context. If a person dreams of having sex in a car, it might imply that he wants to own the car-sex becomes a symbol for ownership. If a dreamer dreams of making love to a stranger in an unfamiliar place, this may be suggesting that she is looking for something new to be introduced into her relationship, or that she is estranged from her own sexuality.
The way the dream made you feel and its correlation with some incident in your recent past will aid in understanding it and its message.
Sex dreams are as common and natural as the physical sexual act. Such dreams shouldn't disturb us, but rather they should be seen as a call for introspection and a deeper look at what's being re-presented. Dreams always come in service of our greater good, at a time when the subject of the dream needs to be addressed. Dreams are our very own, private therapists. And they don't cost us a dime.
Terry L. Gillis, a.k.a The Dream Lady, invites you to visit her comprehensive mind and dreaming site at [] Take your time and explore all that the site has to offer: visit the library, read the most recent articles, subscribe to the free monthly newsletter, The Nocturnal Times, and much more.
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Thursday, September 12, 2013

How to Help Your Lover Deal With an Unwanted Move

How to Help Your Partner Deal With an Unwanted Move

Sometimes, one person in a marriage gets an opportunity in another city, state or even country that can cause strife in the partnership. Perhaps the other person will be expected to move with the spouse and away from friends and family. This kind of scenario can be hard on the relationship and can sometimes even lead to the destruction of it. However, if you and your spouse are committed to making the move, even if one person is not looking forward to it, you can get through the change and be stronger in the end.
The most important thing to realize is that you should never make the decision to move without your partner's knowing. You can't just hire the movers and expect your spouse to be on board with it when the moving truck pulls into the driveway to move your things. It is critical for you to begin the discussion of moving as soon as you realize the opportunity is there. All decisions related to the move, if in fact, the decision to move is made, should be made together. From the movers you pick to the actual moving day.
You might need to get outside help to assist you and your spouse through the difficult moving process. For example, if you have a great job waiting for you in your new location, but your spouse is going to be jobless when you move, it is wise to contact a career counselor before the move is made to find out what your partner can do to make the transition easier. If your spouse can get a job in the new location as well, it might make him or her feel better about the change.
If you decide that only one of you needs a job in the new location, you might want to help your spouse get involved in local organizations, clubs or educational opportunities to help him or her integrate into the new community as quickly as possible. Almost all cities have local colleges or recreation centers that offer classes and other organized activities, which can help your spouse feel more at home more quickly.
Finally, if your spouse is completely unhappy with the move and you really feel like the change could tear your relationship apart, it might not be the opportunity you thought it was. Sometimes, the move you don't make could be the right decision after all.
John is a shrewd consumer who writes about personal finance, finding deals, and local consumer home services like: movers Dallas and local movers Chicago.
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Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Sexy Video Games?

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Monday, September 9, 2013

Trio of Sexy Challenges to Get Your Love Flowing

This trio of Sexy Challenges offers you ways to spice up your sex life while moving outside of your normal boundaries. The way you communicate will expand and so will your pleasure boundaries. Let your lover know in a unique way what excites you. Build anticipation while lighting a spark that will burn and burn. That spark will turn into a blazing fire as you communicate in special, sexy ways throughout your day, your week or even longer.

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Sunday, September 8, 2013

One Hot Pepper

This summer we planted a small red chile pepper plant.  We finally have a few red and ready to pick.  We will see just how hot these little treasures are.  The point is that we have enjoyed watching this precious little plant form blooms and their beautiful blooms have turned into little tiny peppers, then bigger, then RED ones.

It has been a small, but enjoyable thing to share with each other this summer.  And, now we will soon try them out and see if they are super hot and make one of us do a funny little dance looking for a glass of milk to sooth our burning mouth.

Saturday, September 7, 2013

Soul Families, Soul Clusters

A little insight...

Soul Family: Souls that are very close to you.  You might compare them to your immediate family on Earth.  Your soul family are the souls that are the closest to you.  During incarnation you may not get along with them because they are likely to teach you the most profound lessons and you them.  But, they are also those people that we meet and simply know we know them somehow.  We may wonder how can I know him/her.  Yet, you simply know you do.

Soul Cluster:  This is the group of souls that are close to you, but not as close.  Compare them to your extended family.  You may have a ton of cousins, aunts, uncles, etc., but may not be as close to them as your parents, siblings.  It all depends.  This is just an analogy.  There are an infinite number of soul clusters perhaps.  They make up Galactic families.  

Galactic Families:  They are like communities.  Groups of soul clusters that are closer to one another.

So, this little tidbit today is just something for you to chew on and ponder.  Is it exactly the truth for everyone?  Actually, I don't think so.  But, it certainly is for a whole slew though!

Love to you all,

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Friday, September 6, 2013

Soul Mate Or Twin Flame - What is The Difference

**Here is a look at what soul mates and twin flames are.  Your thoughts? 

Twin Flame Or Soul Mate - What's the Difference?

Expert Author Daniella Breen
What is A Soulmate?
Soul mates are those lovers who as soon as we meet, it's like we're old friends, or old lovers - there's often plenty of passion, lots of joy and it feels wonderful to be with them. After a while of being together though, things often start to go wrong, or you feel like you're in an old familiar pattern that is holding you back.
Soul mates are those lovers, who we've had as lovers and friends in many lifetimes previous. They are dear, familiar and often comfortable, but they also usually come with their own set of unresolved issues - from our times together. This is a wonderful opportunity to resolve and clear karma by resolving the issue once and for all. Once you've cleared the karma, you may find that the relationship becomes wonderful and you can live happily ever after. Or you may find that you lose interest, whatever had bound you together for so long, appears to have vanished. That's okay, it just means that you achieved what you wanted and now it's time to move onward.
What is a Twin Flame?
Twin Flame is quite literally your other half. This is the being that separated from you way back at the start of your journey, thousands and thousands of years ago. It has always been very rare for Twin Flames to come together here on Earth - however, recently, as a part of our journey back to the Light, increasing numbers of lightworkers are coming together with their Twin Flame to join forces and unite the world.
Of course, everyone desires to be with their Twin Flame! It's a romantic ideal, your perfect other half. You assume that everything will be alright when that happens. But in reality, you are still two individuals here on earth, no matter how well connected you are so you will still have issues to deal with and the relationship will still take devotion and work.
Also, you cannot assume that you are meant to meet your twin flame here. It may not be a part of your path. It is perfectly wonderful working through any issues in relationships you may have and finding and connecting with someone who is not your twin flame but a lover who is wanting to commit to your life together.
Actions to Attract Your Perfect Partner
You must clear anything that is blocking you from a wonderful relationship. If you have had mostly (or only) unhealthy, unloving, unhappy relationships, then it's likely that there are buried beliefs within you that attract this.
Make sure you:
1. Believe and know that you deserve only love
2. Tolerate nothing less than the love you desire
3. Heal all damage from past relationships
4. Consider, and if appropriate get healing for any past life or childhood trauma
Once the slate is clean, start focusing on your ideal love. Write about what he/she's like, how they think, what they feel like, go into as much detail as you can, take as long as you can to get clear.
Finally, spend a bit of time meditating on connecting with him - you'll be connecting with his higher self - so let him know how you choose to be treated in a relationship and if he's ready for such a relationship, then you are too.
Daniella has been working in the field of Consciousness Mentoring and Energy Work since 1997. Her core drive is working with others to bring them into True Empowerment in their life through re-aligning them with their Soul and Sacred Consciousness. If you want to learn more about shifting into your Soul Purpose and other Consciousness work, Daniella holds a regular Consciousness Call - a free teleconference that you can sign up for here -

Thursday, September 5, 2013