Sunday, March 31, 2013

Be Present - Tip of The Week Video

Today we shared about being present with your lover!
You can transform your relationship with this one simple step.

Friday, March 29, 2013

Q&A How Can I Tell My Lover How I Really Feel?

How can I let my husband (or wife) know that what he does upsets me?  I never seem to say it right without sounding like a nag or I simply beat around the bush and never get to my actual point.  Help!

We talked in this episode about four ways to let your lover know how you feel, but without coming across aggressively, which can make your sweetie go on the defensive or feel like you are yelling at or reprimanding him/her.

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Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Sex Scene Ice Cream? Hmmm..

This Wacky Wednesday episode is hilarious!!!  Our main topic that we discuss is a product we just came across called Sex Scene Ice Cream.  We talked about the variety of flavors too.  Actually, our conversation went from this new sexy ice cream to sexual olympics - oh my!   A friend of ours was visiting and we invited her to join in the conversation for this episode - so this week was a little different.  We had a blast sharing - laughed so hard we had tears in our eyes.  We hope you listen in and enjoy your own laughter at our hilarity and at the same time we hope you check out this new product we have found.

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Monday, March 25, 2013

Daily Life Isn't Always Sexy

Daily life may not always be sexy, but it can still be funny and enjoyable.  We talked on this episode about how you just can't expect every day of your life to be the sexiest and most exciting day.  Sometimes life needs cleaned up or is a little stinky.

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Friday, March 22, 2013

Why More Than One Tradition within Sacred Sensual Practice?

We were recently asked why we have chosen to blend different traditions and religious practices into our spiritual and sacred practice.  What is the reason and what are the benefits?

Listen in to this episode to discover our reasons.

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Wednesday, March 20, 2013

Erotic Arts and Crafts?

Last Wednesday we talked about homemade bondage, which led us to discover even more wacky creations.  Did you know that in Canada they actually have an annual erotic arts and crafts fair?  In this episode we talk about crocheted pasties and tassels from as well as a number of other things that can be found via  These items range from the above mentioned sexy crocheted items to paintings to fancy shmancy underwear.  Listen in to hear about these unique items.

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Monday, March 18, 2013

Signs From the Masters

We share with you some amazing signs that we keep getting. We are here for you and to spread an amazing message in this world. Our mission is to lift couples up, help them deepen their bond emotionally, physically and spiritually. We have been and continue to be guided to do this profound work. One of the signposts that shows up for us time and time again on almost a daily basis is the number 33 or 333. These occurrences leave us in awe and with a sense of amazement!
The proof blew even us away!
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Saturday, March 16, 2013

Unique Spin the Bottle Idea (Not for kids)

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Give the age-old game of Spin the Bottle a new twist with this Sexy Challenge. Can you control where the bottle will be pointing when it stops spinning? Can your lover? Amazing and spicy experiences can transpire for the two of you when you take your turn at spinning your very own proverbial bottle. This challenge offers you a variety of new ways to experience a game you may likely have played in your youth. Give it a whirl and enjoy some excitingly new intimate play with your sweetheart. 

Friday, March 15, 2013

Homemade Bondage?? Just What Was Mom/Grandma Crocheting?

We recently talked about something we heard about during one of our meetup groups (Sex and Relationship Talk for Singles).  We decided to share this funny and innovative idea with you via one of our Wacky Wednesday episodes of Sexy Challenge Heartbeats.   

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Friday, March 8, 2013

Last Longer - Tips via our Podcast

Many people out there wish their sex could last longer.  This can become a real problem if one of you cannot last long enough for the other one to reach that point of pleasure.   While lasting longer is usually something men need to focus on it can sometimes be something that both partners need to focus upon.  Join us as we give you some suggestions and tips on how to make your lovemaking last longer.  We would love tackle your questions. So, if you have any, send them to

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Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Become an Animal and Make Love to Your Partner?

On this podcast we talk about the fetish or role play that is called "furries".  Being a Furrie requires you to dress in an animal costume during your sexual intimacy.  Now this can be a very basic form of dressing up to a very costly one where the costumes can cost thousands of dollars.  Listen in as we weigh in with our views and we would love you to do the same.  Send your comments of suggestions for new shows to

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Monday, March 4, 2013

Guys! Last Longer with Tantric Methods

So, guys would you like to last longer? Do you want to delay your climax? We are going to share with you a few different things that you can use to delay when you ejaculate. Once you practice and become skilled with these methods, you will be able to choose when and if you ejaculate. Make note that you can still orgasm even when you don’t ejaculate, but we are not suggesting that you don’t at all. We are just offering you a few techniques that you can use to make that choice for yourself. **Ejaculation is healthy for the prostate and your ejaculate also has healing properties; therefore your partner may benefit from it if you are fluid bonded. (Fluid bonded, if you don’t know, means you exchange bodily fluids during intercourse.)

Consider for a moment climbing a mountain. If you were to set out with only the goal of reaching the peak, which would be the climax of your hike, you would miss out on a lot of amazing sites and experiences along the way. There is no need to rush to the top. Instead, stop along the way (or at least slow down for a bit) and take in the whole experience.

Get in Tune w/Your Body
One of the most powerful ways to control your climax is to be in tune with your own body. Know how it feels when you are getting close. Pay attention to your breathing, know your limits, and be willing to change things up. You can certainly practice with your lover, but it can be quite helpful to practice alone via masturbation too. When practicing, choose one or two of the methods below (depending on how skilled you may already be at some) and consciously practice that particular technique during a lovemaking or masturbation session. Remember practice makes perfect. If it doesn’t work in the beginning, try, try again. 

Eye Gaze
If you are with your lover, you can open your eyes and stare deeply into his/her eyes. Focus on the emotions you are feeling at that moment. This can help you take focus away from your physical sensations and offers you an opportunity to take a step back from the brink.

This goes along with being in tune with your body, but be aware of your breathing. Slow it down. Take long, slow inhalations and release those deep breaths just as slowly. This will also help slow your heart rate a bit. The blood won’t be pumping quite as quickly then to your manhood.

Focus on Your Lover’s Pleasure
You can take the focus away from yourself and put it into pleasuring your lover. Become fully aware of what his/her responses are and what makes him/her feel pleasure. Bringing your lover to orgasm should be very exciting for you, but if it is going to lead you too close to your climax, then move back a bit from his/her orgasm and tease and play more for a while.

Change Positions
Having sex in the same position over and over again can become monotonous and boring anyway. Here is a perfect reason to switch positions. When you feel yourself nearing climax or if you know a particular position will take you there rather quickly, then make love in a different position. Try something new or do a different position that you already know the two of you enjoy.

Penis Squeeze
When nearing climax squeeze the tip of the penis just below the head. As you do this also pull the testes down and away from your body. You may need to do this for up to 30 seconds. If your erection lessens, don’t worry. You should be able to get it back as soon as you focus on your pleasure again.

Full Body Engagement
One final technique we will share with you today is a little more complex. When you are nearing climax, stop, hold your breath, tighten your perineum and your anus, touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth, and look upward with your eyes. Hold this position as long as you can. Then release it. If you tremble or spasm all over, you have just experienced a full-­‐body orgasm without ejaculating.

There are a number of ways to delay and/or control your climax. Extended foreplay is another beautiful method that many men practice. Yet, when you are new to this experience it will take time just like anything else. The first time you tried to walk you only took a couple of steps and then flopped down again, but you kept trying – didn’t you. Allow yourself (and your lover) to enjoy practicing any and/or all of the above techniques. Have fun and explore this new territory.

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D.
Rob Alex, M.Sc. 

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