Thursday, July 31, 2014

Sex Getting Better With Age


People are living longer and longer, which means their sex lives are getting longer and longer too.  All of the sudden getting older doesn't look so bad.

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What is a sexy-genarian? It is my new term for a man or woman who stays in touch with your vital sexual energy through the ages. Discover the top reasons to boost your sexual energy and learn 3 ways to become a sexy-genarian today.
Why become a sexy-genarian?
We all have sexual energy. It is a primal life force that fuels sexual chemistry and procreation while it promotes optimal health, vitality and well being.
Scientists report that couples who enjoy an active sex life in a committed relationship stay healthier, more youthful and they tend to outlive single folks.
I often tell my online community that making love and a loving home life is a fountain of youth. Seeking a lover to stay young with you is a healthy desire that may drive you to hire matchmakers and join dating sites until you meet your best match.
Without commitment and frequent sexual intimacy with your love match, you may not receive the proven health and longevity benefits, known in pop culture as sexual healing.
What if you aren't expressing your sexual energy in a relationship?
Like the energy from the sun, you can't deny the existence of your sexual energy.
It attracts like-minded people into your daily life and love life.
It repels those who sense they may be burned or consumed in your sexual fire.
You can choose to stifle your sexual energy, like clouds hiding the sun's rays.
Can you expect crops or self growth without sunny days?
Or you can boost your sexual energy and express it in positive, creative ways.
Here are 3 ways you can become a sexy-genarian today:
1. Sexy Attitudes
Neuroscientists now tell us that your greatest sex organ is your brain. Smart is sexy. It's smart to see solutions instead of problems, see miracles instead of obstacles and celebrate the masculine and feminine energy that promotes new growth, good health and well being.
2. Sexy Action Plans
Think of your body as a finely tuned luxury vehicle and treat it accordingly.
If you want optimal performance, avoid junk fuel.
Choose premium whole foods, spend time with optimistic friends, get holistic health tune ups that maintain fitness in body-mind-spirit.
Sexy action plans are for men and women who maintain a sexy body by keeping your skin glowing, your nails buffed, your hair shiny, your scent fresh, your spine flexible, your muscles strong and your spirits high. Now you're finely tuned for the next step.
3. Sexy Interactions
Your sex appeal is a result of healthy action plans and attitudes, not sexy clothes nor cosmetics nor seduction strategies.
Like attracts like. If you stay in touch with your healthy sexual energy and you enjoy being a sexy-genarian, then you will attract sexy-genarians into your life and love life.
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Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Avoiding STD's


If you want to have sex and avoid getting an STD, then you need to listen up. There are a few ways to avoid STD contraction and your sex life depends on you knowing what to do. Here are a few ways to stay away from STD's.
First, make sure your partner is clean. This seems like a no brainer, but you need to know that your partner is clean or you are putting yourself at risk. If there is any strange discoloration, sores, rashes, or anything else that is a bit funky about their penis or vagina, then you might want to call off the sex or at least use a condom.
Second, use a condom. Another no brain idea, but there are too many people that forget about using a condom and they contract an STD because they were lazy, did not care, or just forgot. You should never have sex without a condom if you think you are at risk of contracting an STD. Even if you don't think you are at risk you should use a condom unless you are in a relationship with someone and they are the only person you are having sex with, and vice versa. Then, you can consider not using a condom, but make sure you have enough trust in your partner to know that they are clean.
Last, stop having sex with multiple partners. Most of the symptoms of sexually transmitted diseases do not even show up until weeks after you contract the infection so you might be off having sex and passing the disease on before you even know you have it. Avoid having multiple partners and you will have a much better chance of avoiding the awful STD's that are out there.
There is not such thing as safe sex unless you are in a relationship and you and your partner are monogamous. This being said you should practice safer sex and keep all of these ways to avoid STD contraction in mind while doing so. Check the quality of the turf, use a condom, and avoid having multiple partners so that you don't end up with an STD.
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Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Love Is Like the Dew Gently Rolling + Dripping



Love is the like dew gently rolling and dripping from the petal of a delicate flower.  Sunlight will sparkle and glisten from these drops of nature filled with nourishment.



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Ugliness Is Only A Label Other's Place Upon You


Baby, can't you see past the label of ugliness that others place upon me?  Can't you see the love in my eyes and the beauty in my heart?  Won't you look at me and see love and beauty?  And, a handful of cuteness?


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Monday, July 28, 2014

Her Smile Is More Beautiful Than The Stars




“And in her smile I see something more beautiful than the stars.”

––Across the Universe by Beth Revis



And For Her Eyes,


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Sunday, July 27, 2014

Does Married Life Really Have to Suck?



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Saturday, July 26, 2014

Eggs Are Great For Your Sex Life And...


Have you ever wondered what are the health benefits of eggs? Some people eat them every day without even thinking about all the good things have eggs to offer. Most people just know about the protein and the cholesterol that eggs contain and don't know about the many other ingredients and qualities of eggs. Well, this article will reveal the many health benefits of eggs and why you should include them in your diet.
It's no secret that eggs are one of the best sources of protein there is. The thing which makes this even better is the high ratio of protein/fat that eggs offer. With about 6 grams of protein (concentrated in the egg white) and just 5 grams of fat, you don't need to gain fat due to eating eggs in order to enjoy the high protein in eggs.
But eggs have much more to offer than just protein. It's quite amazing when you know how good they can be for you. Here are some of the extra benefits of eggs:
1. Eggs help to boost brain health and function - One of the ingredients of egg is Choline, a substance that is a component in some molecules in our brain. Since out body does not produce an adequate amount of choline on its own, we need to eat more of it to have enough. Eggs are an excellent.
2. Eggs are a rich source of many vitamins that our body requires to continue functioning properly. These vitamins include A. B2, B5, B12, D, E, all of which you need to maintain your health.
3. Eggs are a source of antioxidants which help to protect your cells against the effects of free radicals. Antioxidants help to delay the aging process and help ward off diseases of many sorts.
4. Eggs are a source of cartenoid, a substance that it beneficial to our eyes and helps to protect them against degenerative diseases.
5. Due to their massive dose of protein, eggs can actually help you to lose weight. The protein helps to curb your appetite and keep you feeling full for a long time. The protein also help to develop your muscle tissue that can in turn boost your metabolism to burn more calories.
As you can see, eating eggs can be very beneficial. Naturally, you shouldn't overeat them. Just make sure to have one every once in a while to enjoy the benefits they offer.
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How Sexy Lingerie Can Help...


They say to look beautiful, you have to think beautiful thoughts. So, what do you think you have to do to look sexy? If you can feel sexy and look sexy, you will be sexy. Sexy lingerie can set the stage for those feelings, because after all, who doesn't feel sexy when wearing a corset and fish net stockings?
All things in life are intertwined. The way you feel affects the way that you look and vice versa. You are never going to feel sexy, even when you are wearing the very best lingerie when you have a raging case of the flu, for instance. On the other hand, even when you feel right as rain, you will not look or feel sexy with the old panties with the frayed pops of cotton on the waist band and the old bra with the knotted straps. Part of feeling sexy is the looking sexy, after all.
Sexy lingerie is kind of like a signal, the cue that turns that part of the brain on. Say for instance that you only take a bath before making love with your spouse, the rest of the time you hope in the shower and be done with it. If hubby sees you getting into the tub, he knows it's going to be a loving kind of night for him. If you wear sexy lingerie on nights that you are going out with your special someone, then every time that you put it on, it will feel like a special night.
Sexy lingerie can put you in a better frame of mind, a better mood. When you come home from work in a really horrible mood, the first thing you want to do is to change out of your work clothes. You do not want to be reminded of the day you have just had. You take off those items of clothing, signifying an end to the day and a change into a different kind of uniform, so to speak. It is the same with lingerie. You change out of the day to day, common and basic stuff, slipping into sexy lingerie so that you can feel a little sexier.
Of course, there are those women who are so confident in themselves that they can feel sexy no matter what they are wearing. Then there are those women who have to have a whole coat of armor made of sexy lingerie to warm up a little bit. No matter which one you are, you should always have at least one piece of lingerie that makes you feel sexy and special to pull out on those days when your own sexy meter seems to be stuck in the off position.
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Friday, July 25, 2014

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Don't Leave Words Unspoken


A love for our families is the one human trait that all of us share. However, how often do we think about the emotional turmoil that we may leave behind should our lives be prematurely cut short?
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Thursday, July 24, 2014

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Wednesday, July 23, 2014

What Is Intimacy?

What is Intimacy?
by Dr. Kevin Skinner
Are you looking for more intimacy in your relationship? If yes, let me help you get started by defining which type of intimacy you are seeking. Are you looking for more physical intimacy? Or would you prefer more emotional intimacy? Maybe you are looking for more stimulating conversations--this is what I call intellectual intimacy. Or perhaps you want more spiritual intimacy. You see, intimacy comes in many different forms. Unfortunately, our society often thinks only of sex when they think of intimacy.
The purpose of this article is to help you deepen the level of intimacy in your relationships by helping you identify the different types of intimacy. Let's begin by outlining six types of intimacy.
  • Physical Intimacy--is associated mostly with sexual intercourse, but often includes important elements such as touching, holding hands, hugs, and cuddling.
  • Verbal Intimacy--is associated with self-disclosure. It includes the sharing of thoughts, ideas, and suggestions. A key element of verbal intimacy is giving and receiving feedback to each other.
  • Emotional Intimacy--is tied to sharing feelings. Couples who are effective at emotional intimacy share both good and bad emotions. They are comfortable sharing fears, worries, exciting, and happy times with each other.
  • Intellectual Intimacy--involves sharing mutual interests. Couples who have developed intellectual intimacy have found areas of interest that they enjoy doing together. They read books, watch movies, attend plays, research good buys, and enjoy sharing these thoughts with each other.
  • Spiritual Intimacy--is best described by couples who share common beliefs and values. They enjoy attending religious services together or reading holy writ. These couples use religion as a way to strengthen their relationship.
  • Psychological Intimacy--is normally described in literature as emotional intimacy. However, the field of psychology attempts to understand the role human behavior plays in social dynamics while incorporating physiological and neurological processes into its conceptions of mental functioning. (1) The term psychological intimacy is much more than just emotional intimacy.
For this reason, I define psychological intimacy using four key elements:
  1. Commitment
  2. Loyalty
  3. Honesty
  4. Truthfulness
The outcome of assessing a couple's psychological intimacy using these four elements is very powerful. It has been my experience as a professional therapist that when couples implement these four elements in their relationship, their relationship is enhanced. Their hearts relax because they know that their relationship is established on a firm foundation. Conversely, when couples are struggling in their relationship their difficulties are often tied to a breech in one of the four elements related to psychological intimacy.
For example, when one partner has been unfaithful, this breech of trust often triggers questions in their partner related to commitment, honesty, and loyalty. Therefore, actions such as infidelity, lying, deceit, or lack of commitment to the relationship are going to prevent psychological intimacy.
When couples discover these six types of intimacy and learn to implement them in their relationship, they find deeper levels of satisfaction. Intimacy is so much more than physical intimacy. It has been my experience that when couples improve in the other five types of intimacy, their physical intimacy gets even better.
So here's a short assignment for you.
Assignment: Assess your relationship in each of the six types of intimacy. Give your relationship a score between 1 and 10 on each type of intimacy.
  1. ____Sexual Intimacy
  2. ____Verbal Intimacy
  3. ____Emotional Intimacy
  4. ____Intellectual Intimacy
  5. ____Spiritual Intimacy
  6. ____Psychological Intimacy
If your partner or spouse is willing, have them write down their score in each area as well. Next discuss your answers with each other and establish goals to improve in each of these areas.
If you would like to assess your relationship and receive professional feedback in each of the six types of intimacy you might consider taking The Relationship Intimacy Test This assessment is based on the six types of intimacy and comes with an 80 minute CD on how to strengthen your relationship by implementing these types of intimacy in your relationship.
Victor L. Brown once said, "The lives of most people are histories of their search for intimacy...". It seems to me that if our life history is based upon our relationships we should seek to enhance them by improving our relationship skills so that we can establish deeper intimate relationships. Good luck in your journey.
References:
Dr. Skinner is a licensed marriage and family therapist who focuses on improving couples relationships. He is the author of "The Relationship Intimacy Test" and "The Predictive Relationship Profile." If you want to learn more about Dr. Skinner you can read about him or listen to his weekly radio shows at GrowthClimate
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Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Romance After Marriage


The sky is the limit when it comes to romance. The word romance elicits a multitude of images to travel through our minds - roses, poetry, sunsets, getaways, candlelit dinners, and the list goes on and on. Running out of ideas is not what stops us from achieving romance (all you need to do is browse the countless web sites on the Internet for tips); what stops us is a lack of time and energy. Between work, bills, groceries, family, homework, dinner, exercise and social events, let alone the emotional burden of making sure everybody around us is happy, it is practically impossible to even get in the mood. The reality is that it is not that hard to lose enthusiasm for romance, since there is only so much a person can do in 24 hours.
Even if we did manage to make time for romance, it would be shocking if no interruptions occurred, especially if children are living under the same roof. To prove this point, in a survey that I conducted, both men and women did rate distractions such as kids, work, and family obligations as the number one reason hindering their romance, even higher than lack of time.
It is undeniably easier for newlyweds to engage in romantic activities, provided that love is present, than couples who have been married for 10, 20 or 40 years! The challenge is how can you keep the spark ignited when the freshness, excitement and novelty wear off? It is inevitable that the flame will dwindle with time; however, try to make sure that your marriage does not get so cold that it turns to ice. There is no doubt that a complete lack of romance will cause a union to be dead and that the hustle and bustle of everyday life makes it difficult to fit in romance. Nonetheless, it is imperative to rekindle romance and bring it back to life. Both men and women in my survey could not agree more, responding that it is indeed important to have a romantic partner. Read more about the survey and learn the do's and don'ts to keep romance alive in your marriage.
Do's
#1 Communicate
Before labeling your partner as unromantic, make sure that you even know what your definition of romance is. Some people do not really know what they want and enjoy complaining that their partner is not romantic enough. Surely, we all have experienced, at one point or another, an outing where friends openly speak about how unromantic their partners are. In fact, sometimes these gatherings can turn into 'who has the worst spouse in the romance department' competition. Sadly, many times the friends know about the dissatisfaction before even the spouse knows. It is natural to yearn for romance and it is not wrong to confide in friends; however, make sure to communicate any concerns with your spouse, not just to your friends. Even sillier, some people expect their spouse to 'just know' or to mind read. Do not assume your spouse knows what you want. Indecisiveness, complaints and a lack of communication may be the things putting a damper on romance in your life. Know what exactly makes you happy (not what others think should make you happy), communicate them with your spouse and realize that complaining never really solves anything.
# 2 Find time for each other
This is easier said than done; however, make sure to plan dates with your spouse by going tete-a-tete and having heart-to-heart talks. Even though nothing is wrong with going out in groups and maintaining an active social life, learn to say 'no' to friends and use the alone time to nurture and revive the relationship. In fact, in my survey, men and women both ranked the gift of spending time with each other as the most romantic gift; better than love letters, roses, expensive items and even gifts that they really wanted.
We tend to think of romance as something that is too burdensome and requires planning but it can be integrated into day-to-day life without too much effort. Romance does not have to be a long drawn out planned ordeal. The majority of survey respondents agreed with 71 per cent of men and 66 per cent of women thinking that romance did not require planning.
Furthermore, women ranked receiving unexpected gestures such as a kiss, hug or 'I love you' SMS as the most romantic and ranked being occasionally surprised with gifts the lowest. You see how miscommunication can affect romance? Men are led to believe, by the media, commercials and magazines, that surprising their partners with gifts, is the key to a woman's heart, when in reality, it could just be a spontaneous gesture that will bring a smile to your partner's face. In addition, romance is not always about fancy outings; sometimes, having an intimate talk with your spouse in the car after the outing is more romantic than the actual outing. Spoil your spouse with the gift of time by making it a point to find it.
#3 Give compliments
Tell your spouse when he/she looks nice when dressed up. However, do not give appearance-based compliments only; praise him/her when he/she impresses you, supports you and even when listening to you. If your spouse is a good listener, unconditionally loves you or gives you his/her utmost emotional support, show your appreciation by saying 'thank you' once in a while and never take your spouse for granted; these traits are not easy to find and are considered romantic. By the same token, complimenting instills confidence and raises motivation to be romantic. Making your partner happy will, in turn, make you happy because chances are he/she will reciprocate, thereby making the bond stronger. Make sure your partner feels admired, adored and appreciated. In my survey, both men and women ranked receiving compliments that are truly meant as more romantic than feeling like a prince or princess, signifying the importance of complimenting while being genuine at the same time.
#4 Learn how to be romantic
Did you ever wonder if being romantic comes more natural to some than others? I do not know if a romantic gene exists out there... if whether some people are more genetically prone to be romantic, while others may not have a single romantic bone in their body. For example, unconditional love takes work, especially for perfectionist personalities who have trouble 'letting go'. They might miss out on opportunities to achieve romance because it is difficult for them to see anything less than perfect; they may have to try extra hard or train themselves to accept their partner's faults in order to experience romance, rather than it coming naturally. There is no doubt that some people may be more inherently romantic than others, but romance can definitely be learned. In fact, 46 per cent of females thought that romance can be learned while a higher percentage of males, 52 per cent, believed it could be learned. Interestingly, more women than men thought that romance is a trait someone is born with. With that being said, there is neither a magic potion you need to possess nor something extraordinary you need to have in order for sparks to fly.
There is no special way to be romantic - there is no right or wrong way. According to the website Dictionary.com, romance is 'an ardent emotional attachment or involvement between people', which holds such a broad definition that it can mean absolutely anything! Knowing and acknowledging your partner's likes and dislikes, in and of its self, can be romantic. Honesty, empathy and open-mindedness can be romantic, not just material things. Sometimes, the way a gift is presented is more romantic than the actual gift. Pay attention when your partner expresses interest in something, like a CD, movie or a book. Isn't it more romantic to get what you really want, even if it's simple, rather than getting a random not-thought-about expensive item? In fact, in my survey both men and women ranked receiving a gift you always wanted as more romantic than an expensive one. Getting something of extreme interest is a sign that your partner really pays attention to you, and is not just trying to appease you.
#5 Accept your partner
Do not try to turn your partner into something they could never be or try to change something that cannot be changed. For example, if you secretly always wanted a taller or more intelligent partner, just keep your thoughts to yourself to avoid creating unnecessary insecurities. Always look at your partner in a positive light and you might see romance begin to sizzle. If you try to program your mind to see the good in things, you will see your partner as more romantic. Try to accept and understand the needs of your partner. Sometimes, a person just admitting when he/she is wrong can be a romantic gesture; it would not be surprising if there was a study out there showing that a give-and-take relationship had more romance than a stubborn one-sided one. If there is no acceptance, there is no compromise; if there is no compromise, there is no romance. If your partner tries to be romantic, never put he/she down by saying 'it is not good enough'; this will surely kill any desire for your partner to be romantic in the future with you. Romance is a mutual effort - it should not lie on just one person's shoulder. Do not just wait around for your partner to be romantic because you might be waiting a long time; take the initiate to be romantic because romance breeds more romance. If you know that your partner is going through a difficult time, do not expect the romance to be on high gear. Sometimes, just showing support will lead to a spontaneous romantic move when you least expect it!
Don'ts
#1 Be boring
Do not be rigid with your perceptions of romance - they change with time, should be flexible and are individualistic. Defining romance is one of the hardest things to do and there are an infinite number of ways to describe it. Did you ever think that having a nice conversation could be a romantic moment? Eloquently put, Andre Maurois's quote reads: 'A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short'. When surveyed, 65 per cent of men and exactly the same percentage of women voted 'yes' to this quote when asked if it was romantic. A further finding which is not unexpected, given that we associate flowers with females, was that men ranked having a deep conversation in the car as more romantic than being surprised by flowers; however, women, on the other hand, ranked flowers almost the same as a meaningful talk! To add salt to the wound, women even ranked watching a movie together with their partners as less romantic than getting flowers. I guess this is why florist shops, probably, make a lot of money. No offense to flowers as they are beautiful and lovely; however, there is also nothing wrong with changing it up a little and branching out into new territory.
#2 Be materialistic
Do not expect the world from your partner. If you do not expect much, you will not get disappointed. Be realistic. Do not always expect an expensive gift from your partner because if your idea of romantic is only based on material things, you might be disappointed, especially that times might be tight during this economic downturn. Do not expect your partner to do what celebrities do for their significant others. Be aware of your partner's financial status and try to be understanding. Keep in mind, even if you can afford it, that romance is not measured by cost or how fancy something is, but by how much meaning something holds and how relevant it is to that person. It is also not about abundance: women ranked a single rose equally romantic as a dozen roses, while men ranked a single rose as more special than a dozen. Try not to get side-tracked with material things, because you might lose the real significance of romance.
#3 Compare
Do not compare the romantic level of your partner with other people because you might be overlooking something very special in your partner. What is romantic to you might be so unromantic to somebody else. For example, one person might think that the most romantic gesture is to send roses to their partner's work, whereas, another person might get embarrassed if roses were sent. If you think flowers and going out to fancy places are not romantic, do not force it because other people might think they are. You cannot compare romance between people because it is like comparing apples and oranges. The meaning of romance can range from somebody who thinks being showered with gifts is a must all the way to somebody who thinks that being called a silly nickname is romantic. As you can imagine, everybody holds their own idea of what tickles their fancy.
#4 Think of romance as fairy tales
Starting from childhood, we have been indoctrinated by pop culture, soap operas, film and television to believe that romance is when a prince falls madly in love with a princess, goes off into the sunset together, and lives happily ever after. This could not be further from the truth. If you are dreaming of a Prince Charming, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Let's face it - more women than men wish to have that perfect mate to sweep them off their feet; whereas, men seem to be a bit more realistic. Twenty-nine percent of men said 'yes' when asked if their partners had unrealistic expectations, while only 22 percent of women voted 'yes'. However, oftentimes, men do have unrealistic expectations where the wife must be perfect in everything - good looking, good cook, good lover, and a good mother. Marriage and romance is not easy, takes work and you should not use fairy tales as your guide to romance. Holding unrealistic views of romance can leave a person feeling unloved, lonely and even deceived if the fantasized expectations are not met. Fairy tales are not meant to be real; they are make-believe stories that are entertainment for our children, not a manual for romance.
#5 Think romance is hard
Marriage can get monotonous and mundane and even hectic while trying to juggle between romance, kids and career. Try to get out of the same routine and take a break once in a while. Take a trip, have a picnic outside, go for a walk or just send the children to grandma's house for a change - whatever it is, try to do something different. Although very easy to do, avoid falling into a stagnant 'we are together only for the kids' kind of marriage by keeping your relationship fulfilling, exciting and alive. Sometimes, it seems as if romance in marriages is a rare commodity, and this is because romance, oftentimes, is perceived as hard work. A staggering ninety per cent of females, in my survey, voted 'yes' when asked if a couple must work hard in keeping romance, while 77 per cent of males thought it was hard. Here is a thought to ponder... given that the majority of respondents voted that romance did not require planning, then why should it be viewed as hard work to maintain? Maybe if we changed our thinking patterns and did not view romance as such a huge task, maybe we can do more of it.
Try not to put romance on the back burner because you think it is too cumbersome. Remember that when it comes to romance, it is not about the big things, it is the little things that count when it comes to making your partner feel loved, special and desired. Check out all the complete survey results on my blog. Maybe the results will shed some light on how romance is perceived and - not perceived. Your perspective on how men and women view romance might even be changed. The results speak for themselves.
Dr Sandy Zabaneh is a US board-certified Doctor in Pharmacy who holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Psychology, as well as a Bachelor of Science degree in Physiology from University of California, Davis. She is the Health Editor of U Magazine, clinical pharmacy consultant and life coach. Dr Sandy likes to follow the motto set forth by the World Health Organization in 1948: Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity. Check out her blog at [http://www.sandyzabanehblog.com]


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