Monday, December 31, 2012

How Much Do You Tell About Your Sexual History?

How Much of Your Sexual History Should Your Share?

We recently discussed this on a Q&A episode of the Sexy Challenge Heartbeats' podcast.

What do you think?  Should you disclose everything?  Or are there some things that simply aren't appropriate to share with your current lover?

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Sunday, December 30, 2012

Spicy Subscription's Spice Box...Review

We were recently invited by Spicy Subscriptions to try out their new sexy, romantic and very intimate service.  What is it? 

Spicy Subscriptions is a monthly service in which you are discreetly shipped a unique box of romance, intimacy and beauty products.  You will receive a beautifully packaged surprise each and every month.  The box is perfect to keep your happy little items in as you and your lover work your way through the box over the coming month.  Each time you open it you will be welcomed with the romantic touch of pink tissue paper, bright pink and black filler and shiny little ribbons on top (obviously this may be a bit different from month to month).  If you opt for the Premium Spice Box ($20.95/month), you will find 1 intimate toy, 4-8 samples of product, and 1 full-sized product.  If you opt for the Deluxe Spice Box ($34.95/month), you will find everything that the premium box has plus 1 deluxe accessory.

Our Spice Box was delivered on Christmas Eve.  What a fun little Christmas surprise for us.  We set it aside for later that evening – after all we had to fill stockings and “deliver” our kiddos’ presents from Santa before we could open our special delivery from Santa J  But, there was a whole other sense of anticipation throughout our evening.

Finally, we were able to head to bed and unwrap our box to discover what surprises were inside.  We found an intimate toy, a bottle of strawberry flavored body drizzle, a small bottle of cherry flavored lubricant, flavor strips (for those who don’t like the natural taste of the body), and a ton of trial size packages of different lubes.  There was also a little card that described the contents.  This way if you aren’t quite sure what was what or what you are supposed to use something for, you will have a little guide. 

Here is an example of some of the description card:

Dona Kissable Body Drizzle – Dessert is on you when you let your lover paint you with the delicious Kissable Body Drizzle.  This passion fruit flavored body topping is edible and lickable for the ultimate in treats. 

Aloe Cadabra – Peppermint Tingle – Perfect for the Holiday Season!  Aloe Cadabra’s peppermint tingle is tasty and tingly.  Its ingredients are organic based and it provides a cool, refreshing sensation!  We think you’ll love this special treat to go along with your holiday special candle!  **We aren’t sure what they mean in regards to a holiday candle as there was not one in our box.  Maybe there was one in a previous month’s box??

The concept behind Spicy Subscriptions is great!  You can excitedly anticipate your new shipment each month and wonder what sexy surprise will be inside?  This can make for a good number of intimately playful nights throughout the month.  Even if you don’t like some of the things in the box, it can help boost your sexual anticipation.  We didn’t really like the flavor strips that we tried, but even not caring for the chocolate flavor we created an intimate inside joke between us.  And, having those intimate little secrets with your lover is something we always encourage couples to do.  It deepens the emotional bond between the two of you. 

Is a Spice Box something you would like to add to your relationship to heighten your intimate play?  According to the Spicy Subscription website, right now you can save on your first month if you pay for a 4-month subscription or if you choose to go for an annual membership, your first month is free.  Christmas may be over, but Valentine’s Day is around the corner.  Maybe you will decide to give Spicy Subscriptions a try and have a special surprise for your sweetheart this February 14th.  If you give it a try, we would love to hear your comments here or at       

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Saturday, December 29, 2012

Fun Sex Facts - Are Your Facts Straight?

There are so many facts about sex that are not actually facts at all.  On this episode of Sexy Challenge Hearbeats we dive into some of these facts as they are called.  We would love to hear your comments or subjects for new episodes.  Email us at with your views.

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Thursday, December 27, 2012

Your New Year's Resolution via Sexy Challenges

Make a different kind of New Year's Resolution this year.  And, share this resolution with your lover.  You can support each other and you might just discover that this is one resolution you actually will keep all year long instead of the stereotypical few weeks ;)

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Saturday, December 22, 2012

Pregnancy & Mind-Blowing Orgasms???


We recently answered a question during a Q & A Friday podcast episode on Sexy Challenge Heartbeats in regards to pregnancy and lovemaking.  Is it safe?  Can it benefit her?  Can it benefit you?  How?  Why?  A little hint - it can actually make labor and delivery easier.

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Wednesday, December 19, 2012

We Talk About Hope Springs on Podcast

Hope Springs, a recent movie starring Tommy Lee Jones, Meryl Streep, and Steve Carell, is one movie all couples should see.  It covers the topic of how our romance and passion can slip away - right out from under our nose.  Join us as we discuss the important issues covered in this movie and why we feel every couple should see it.  We invite your comments and suggestions for other shows.  Please send them to

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Tuesday, December 18, 2012

NEW Sexy Challenge - Taint-ed Love

The word tainted is typically considered to mean something bad.  Yet, when you and your beloved practice getting tainted it is going to be an amazing and wonderful experience.  This Sexy Challenge will build trust between the two of you and increase your pleasure by leaps and bounds.  You will never look at the word tainted the same way again.

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Sunday, December 16, 2012

Sexy Holiday Gifts

What can you get your lover this holiday season?  Can you use that gift to put spark back into your relationship or maybe even to suggest something you have been wanting to try for a long time?  We discuss presents that might just get things a little hotter in your relationship on this episode of Sexy Challenge Heartbeats. Send us your comments or suggestions to

Wishing you and your family the best holiday season and wishing you and your lover a sexy one!

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Monday, December 10, 2012

How to Have a Sexy, Positive & Thriving Relationship

Life is full of changes. Move through them while feeling confident, sexy and filled with love.
Life is full of changes. We move through our lives with hopes and desires. Yet, we often find ourselves unhappy, stressed and with a sense of feeling hopeless and undesirable. Wouldn’t it be an amazing and a wondrous experience to live life feeling healthy and sexy? Instead of having that, many of us continue to wonder just how we are supposed to maintain positive attitudes and thrive in all of our relationships. We may not even be aware that positive thoughts are a golden key to thriving – physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, sexually, and even financially.
Even when we are aware, this beautiful space that we encounter, occasionally, seems to evaporate as old patterns begin to reinvade our blissful state. Have you had this happen? You are filled with joy and excitement about life and about your partner. Then, suddenly the discord, the monotony, the “ho hum”, the trials and tribulations start showing up. You feel that just once you would really like to be in a relationship that fills you up instead of tearing you down. You want to just enjoy the relationship instead of having to work so hard to keep it strong and healthy.
This is understandable, but life is not a bowl of cherries. It is about love, but it is about growth – personal growth, spiritual growth. We cannot grow and expand if we do not experience any “growing pains.” Only we can judge when the pain is too much. No one else can tell us when it is time to walk away. No one else can tell us when we must stay either. At the same time, there are a number of things we can change. Now is this about changing your partner? No! We cannot change others unless they want to change, but we can change ourselves. When we do this we will uncover the joy and happiness within ourselves and not rely on anyone else to create this for us. Our change will affect us individually and it will also have a tremendous impact on those around us.
So, what are some key things you can do to change or do differently that will help you develop and then stay in a healthy, positive, sexy and thriving relationship?
1. Have love and compassion for YOU! Imagine a time in your life when you were a child and experienced something that upset you. Now, imagine your adult self wrapping your arms around your child self. In your imagination, offer gentleness, an outpouring of love, and have deep compassion for your child self. Tell this part of you that everything is going to be all right – that she is loved. When you learn to do this for your inner child you can shift it and offer this same love and compassion for yourself as an adult today. This is not about being selfish. This is about loving and respecting yourself. The more you can love and have compassion for yourself, the more you will be able to do so for others.
2. Be present with your partner and others. When you are with your partner really be with him/her. Pay real attention to what he/she has to say. Practice deep listening. Do not interrupt, change the subject or avoid conversation. Hear what he/she has to say. Put away the cell phone, turn off the television, shut off your computer and focus your attention on those around you. Show your partner and others that they are truly important to you.

3. Change the words you use. Pay close attention to the words you choose to use. Do you use negative words? Do you call yourself or others “stupid” or “fat” or even “foolish? These are hurtful words to others and ourselves. Even when we use them in a joking tone, they carry negative energy. The energy we send out is what we are going to get in return. Do you want more stupid, fat, and foolish people around you? You can change your words. Try saying, “I do not feel as thin as I prefer to be in these clothes,” instead of “These freaking pants are too tight on my fat butt!”
4. Let go of the need to be right. This one can be challenging, but it is well worth all of the effort you may need to put into it. When you are discussing something with your partner or another person and you do not agree with them, what do you typically do? It is more common than not that we want to correct him/her, say he/she is wrong, and tell this person what we think is right. But, if you can stop and take some time to simply see it from the other person’s perspective, you may just be amazed at what will happen. For one thing, you are showing your partner or whoever that you value his/her perspective. And, it is possible that you might just shift your view a bit. If you don’t change your mind, that is okay – just be willing to respect and appreciate the differences between you and your partner.
5. Eat healthier. This may seem obvious, but sometimes we forget. Certain foods can make us feel heavy and bloated, or on the opposite end, some foods leave us feeling hungry and unfulfilled. No one can tell you exactly what we should eat. Everyone’s bodies are different. Therefore, you need to find a nutrition coach, a ayurvedic practitioner, or read up on various ways to have a healthier diet. Changing your diet can have a tremendous impact on your physical and mental health as well as your emotional health.
6. Exercise regularly. Yep. It is true. We need to be active. Our bodies are designed to move. They are not made to sit in front of a computer all day or become couch potatoes. It is important for all of us to be active in one way or another. This keeps the body younger, maintains higher metabolism and it keeps the mind younger too. Going through life in a body that is in shape also helps us feel sexier and more confident.
7. Connect to your spirituality. Our busy lives can often get in the way of noticing the beauty all around us. We trudge to work everyday without sensing or hearing the call of our soul. Your religious or spiritual beliefs are yours and you should follow what resonates with you. This is not about changing your beliefs. This is about paying attention to your Spirit and your Soul. This can be done in so many ways. Here are two simple ways 1) Take five minutes a day to just sit quietly with your eyes closed. Breathe in deeply and then slowly release that breath. Continue focusing on your breath throughout this break in your day. 2) Listen to your inner voice, your instinct, your gut. Those little ideas or thoughts that just pop into your head are often from your soul or spirit trying to get a message to you. Pay attention.
8. Mix-up your sex life. Making changes in your sex life with your partner can deepen the bond between the two of you and enhance your emotional as well as your physical intimacy. Trying new things, learning what each other’s desires are, and honoring one other through physical communication can have a profound impact. We suggest adding Sexy Challenges and Intimate Adventures: Sacred Ceremonies for Couples to your intimate life. You can rekindle or enhance your passion with the exciting scenarios shared in Sexy Challenges. You can also discover the sacredness in your relationship – emotionally, physically, spiritually - with the beautiful and fun filled exercises, rituals, experiences and ceremonies in Intimate Adventures.
Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D.  Copyright 2011

Saturday, December 8, 2012

Q&A - Masturbate Together...How to let your lover know you want to.

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Masturbation has been given a seriously private reputation in the past.  Why can't we enjoy it with the person we love?  We can!  The energy around it is good and positive.  Yet, our society has made it something that we must hide and keep secret.  The truth is most people masturbate.  They might not admit it, but they do it.  Listen as we discuss this topic and as always we invite your questions and comments for future Q&A Fridays.  Send an email or drop a question in the comments below.

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Thursday, December 6, 2012

Time To Break Out The Christmas Sexy Challenge

This Holiday classic ranks right up there with A Charlie Brown Christmas, Christmas Vacation, and any other Holiday treat you can think of.  However this challenge will have you smiling a lot more during the holidays.  Pick up your copy and start enjoying more of the holidays today.

Also available on Amazon Kindle and Barnes & Noble Nook.

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Classic Issue of Sexy Challenge

One of the highest selling Sexy Challenges of all times is Having A Ball With Sex.  The pure pleasure of this challenge has had many people purchasing exercise balls all over the country.  This might make a wonderful Holiday present for your beloved.  

You can also pick it up on Amazon or For your Nook.

Sunday, December 2, 2012

Exercise for Health and Sex

Here is a great short video to help you get on the path to not only getting healthier but to having a better sex life.  

Friday, November 30, 2012

Breath Enhances Your Sex Life - 7 Ways #7


         Not Just Oxygen – Instead of thinking of breathing as taking in oxygen imagine you are breathing in your partner’s love for you and exhaling your love for him/her.  Breath or “prana” in Sanskrit is considered to be the life force and is concentrated along the seven main chakras.  So, visualize your partner’s breath as life giving love for you and your breath as life giving love for him/her.  Become aware of the two of you sharing, blending and exchanging breath integrating your minds, your bodies and your souls.

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Thursday, November 29, 2012

Where Does Sex Rank In Your Relationship?

There are many different views on how important sex is in a relationship.   Today we allow many things to come before sex in our relationships.  I even saw one page that said over half the couples today don't view sex an important part of relationship.  That is crazy.  Going back to India and their powerful divine mother they claim that there are five enjoyments for the divine mother.  Those include Meat, Fish, Grain, Wine, and Maithuna (Sexual Magic).  What does that say?  It tells me that those of ancient times had a better understanding of what we need than the people of today.  It seems so simple to me that intimacy is a major part of our life and an important one.  However, you have to understand that you must put sexual intimacy in a much different light than just purely physical.  Once you understand that your sexual intimacy should rank right up there with what we consider the necessary things to support life, you will gain a clearer picture of how magical sex can be!


Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Rock Star Sexual Energy - Podcast Episode

What do those who perform on stage have that attract us?  Sexual energy.  It is the factor that draws our attention to the stage and to watch!  That stage can be a concert, a sporting event, the theater, and more - the list can go on and on.  Sure there is talent we want to witness, but within that talent lies the sexual being that is creating and performing and we want to soak it up!  Listen in as we discuss this.  Be sure to send in your questions for Q&A Fridays too -  Listen online or via iTunes

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Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Breath Enhances Your Sex Life - 7 Ways #6


1      Energetic Flow – Breathing moves energy through your body.  As you become aware of your breathing you will become aware of your entire body and the sensations that flow from head to toe and back again.  Breathe in deeply pulling energy into your root chakra (located at the base of your spine between the coccyx and pelvic bone) from the Earth.  Hold that new energy there and focus on the spinning of that chakra.  After a few breaths, move this energy up to the sacral chakra (located just below the navel) as you inhale.  Again, focus on spinning that chakra with this increased energy.  As you come together with your lover envision your root and sacral chakras blending your energies.  This is the beginning of heightening the sexual energetic flow in your body.

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