Thursday, January 31, 2013

The Sex Geeks - Interviewed Us :)

We had a blast talking to Jon and Amie!  

Here is what they had to say on their FB page:

Hey Guys,
We are super excited about our guest this week. We have never meet anyone like them and wanted to give you guys a chance to check them out. Here is a little something about them.

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D., Soul Collaboration Guide and Sacred & Sensual Teacher and Rob Alex, M.Sc., Sacred Sensual Teacher, are passionate about empowering couples by teaching them how to combine the sacred and the sensual. Janelle and Rob also teach how practicing sacred sex magick can help you manifest amazing things into your life from a new career to physical healing to conceiving a child.

This is going to be awesome. Check us out this Thursday on The Sex Geeks!!

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Sex Magick For Couples

Sex Magick for Couples
"The Sexual Law of Attraction"

~Manifest amazing things into your life.~
~Deepen the bond with your sweetheart.~
~Stimulate your sex lives, your emotions and your spirituality.~

~Expand your boundaries through pleasure.~
~Connect with your soul and your lover's soul.~
~Tap into the ultimate creative source.~
~Pierce the veil between the physical and the metaphysical.~
~Fulfill your heart's desires - your dreams - your wishes.~

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Monday, January 28, 2013

Get Lusty for Couples is having a Valentine's Giveaway

We write a new article about once a week and share it here as well as with Get Lusty for Couples; therefore, we agreed to share with you about their new site and their giveaway.  :) 

“GetLusty’s Valentine Giveaway!”

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Whether you’re dreading it or you can’t wait for it, GetLusty is here with the mission to bring more passion and intimacy into your life with your Lover. What better season to catch the love bug? Sign up here with a chance to win!

GetLusty is a site with over 700 articles, including advice from world-renowned sexperts. Couples-friendly, ethical and eco-minded businesses are added daily to our site. There are special deals and discounts to all members from these sex positive businesses. Exclusive and VIP members get even more access to articles and bigger deals and discounts for sexy and romantic products.

GetLusty is committed to sex positive information for couples. We feature advice and inspiration for every preference, orientation, fetish and interest. Our newly launched site is unique in its field. We even have games you can play with you lover to earn points toward more access to articles and discounts. Who knew monogamy could be this fun?

Sunday, January 27, 2013

How to Cultivate a Sensual Pregnancy

The body changes drastically from the moment of conception.  And, those changes continue not only through the next nine to ten months, but for weeks and possibly months after your new bundle of joy arrives.  Women are beautiful, sensual and sexual creatures.  Yet, for many, once they discover they are pregnant the idea of being sensual or sexual quickly evaporates. 

There are many reasons that this may be the case.  “Morning sickness”, new hormones running rampant, weight gain, an unsupportive partner, the upcoming financial strain of a new child, your body image, and other health concerns are all potential reasons that you may not feel sensual or sexy during all or part of your pregnancy.  So, is it even really possible to have a sensual pregnancy?  Yes! 

First of all, be aware that being sensual does not necessarily mean the same thing as being sexual.  Sensuality is about gratifying the senses.  Become more fully present in the moment and become fully aware of your body and your emotions.

While pregnant your sense of smell and sense of taste may very well become heightened.  Eating delicious foods, especially ones you may have cravings for, can be shared with your lover.  Savor in your heightened taste sensations.  Slowly bite into that fresh piece of fruit.  Take your time lifting the spoon to your mouth, close your lips around it and slowly remove it as you pull this wonderfully delicious treat onto your tongue.  Allow a soft, pleasure-filled moan to escape from your throat.  It doesn’t matter if you are early on in your pregnancy with no baby bump or if you are nine months along and your yummy food is balanced on your baby belly instead of the table.  Your lover is likely to get turned on by your sensual eating.  You can add to the experience by having him/her feed you these tasty bites.  You can even choose to close your lips around his/her fingers as you are fed.        

As your tummy begins to grow be proud of it instead of insecure about your expanding girth.  Opt for clothing that accentuates your baby bump instead of wearing big, sloppy clothing in an attempt to hide it.  This is a special time in your life, whether planned or not.  Take into consideration that not everyone can offer a baby a safe and sacred space to grow in.  Yet, here you are doing just that.  Honoring the rigorous, yet divine, work your body is capable of is beautiful.  Wearing attractive clothing is always a great way to help you feel more sensual and sexier.  Being pregnant doesn’t change that.  There are a lot of spouses/partners who find pregnant women highly attractive.  Together, you created a child, therefore, together you can relish in the sexy changes in your body.

Being pregnant means your body is increasing its blood flow and increasing the secretions from oil glands.  These changes are what help give you that pregnancy “glow”.  Your cheeks may be pinker and your skin shimmers from the extra oil.  You also glow energetically.  We all emit light energy.  It is our life force energy.  You may better understand it as your aura.  Now, consider that you are carrying another life inside of you and his/her little life force energy is also emitting light.  It is no wonder that you seem to “glow” during pregnancy because you really are glowing.  And, more often than not others are drawn to the light.  This means you may be even more attractive to some than normal.  Look at yourself in the mirror.  Run your hands over your body and feel the difference in your skin.  Allow your lover to do the same.  Together you can celebrate the new life your lovemaking is bringing into the world. 

Oftentimes, as your body grows heavy with child you may really want and/or need a foot rub, a back rub or even a tummy rub.  This is a beautiful time to experience a sensual massage from your honey.  He/she can enjoy exploring the changes in your body as you relax and focus on the sensation of his/her touch.  If the two of you progress to a more intimate sensual massage, you can release oxytocin and thereby ease any pregnancy pain you may have been experiencing.  As you probably already know, as you become sexually aroused the body releases this feel-good hormone.  But, did you know that with the increased blood flow, your labia may become engorged during these months.  This offers the potential for a new orgasmic experience. 

Feeling sensual and sharing in lovemaking with your beloved are not only things you can and should enjoy during your pregnancy, but they are very beneficial for you, your lover, and your unborn baby.  For women, pleasure and orgasm are excellent for mental and emotional health as well as physical health.  In fact, as you are preparing for labor and delivery, know that semen has a hormone called relaxin, which softens the cervix and lengthens the pelvic ligaments.  This hormone can be received orally as well.  What a great way to encourage and assist your baby’s entrance into the world.

Experiencing sensuous pleasure throughout your pregnancy can lead to a quicker and easier delivery.  It doesn’t guarantee it, but either way you can relish in the sensuality of your pregnancy.  Wait!  You don’t feel like having sex with your partner?  No problem.  You do not have to have intercourse.  You can experience pleasure orally.  You can pleasure yourself. 

Of course, due to the increased hormonal activity in the body many women find themselves feeling far more sensual as well as more sexually aroused throughout their pregnancy.  You may or may not be one of those women, but you can increase your sensuality simply by honoring you, your body and the changes that are taking place. 

Experiencing and enjoying your sensuality and your sexuality throughout your pregnancy will help your body prepare for the birth.  This can also deepen the intimate bond with your partner. 

One final note for you – while you are in labor if you visualize making love to your sweetheart, you will actually be helping yourself to relax vaginally.  This is a natural way to offer yourself assistance during this experience and may even lead you to have an orgasmic birth.

(*Only participate in sexual activity if your heart is healthy enough and you are not experiencing any other serious health issues.)      

Copyright 2012
Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D., Soul Collaboration Guide & Sacred Sensual Teacher
Rob Alex, M.Sc., Sacred Sensual Teacher

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Monday, January 21, 2013

Universal Orgasm Night - Feb. 14th Valentine's Day

You can also pick up a Sexy Challenge created specifically for U-ON!  
Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and iTunes (soon). 

Enjoy a sexy, special time with your lover while helping heal the world. Universal Orgasm Night or U-ON is a special Sexy Challenge that focuses on couples around the world experiencing orgasmic pleasure on the same day. You can find a calendar of the U-ON dates at

Sex is an important part of any long-term relationship. It doesn’t matter if you are heterosexual, homosexual, or bi-sexual. You can adjust Sexy Challenges to fit your desires.

You can rejuvenate your sex life, spice it up or simply take it to a new level. 

And, guess what? You will actually have an opportunity to improve your communication. 

Check out all of the Sexy Challenges on iTunes, visit us at our site and be sure to listen to our Sexy Challenge Heartbeats podcast.

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Flash Your Lover :)

What do you think of when you think “flasher”?  Would you be shocked?  Mortified? What if it was your partner?  Would it be exciting?  Or could it even be a little bit funny?  This Sexy Challenge most certainly can add new spice, anticipation and exhilaration to your relationship.

Pick up this new Sexy Challenge on iTunes or Amazon

Monday, January 14, 2013

Visions During Sex? Is It Possible? Real?

Can you experience visions during lovemaking?  At the point of orgasm?  Afterwards?

Is it just woo woo?  Is it just imagination?  

Or is it real and tapping into the future or past (or the astral network)?  

We recently discussed this in regards to Rob's visions on a podcast.

Download this episode (right click and save)

Subscribe via iTunes for free :)

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Saturday, January 12, 2013

Want a Sensual Massage - Here are 7 Steps

There is often a bit of a joke about women wanting a back rub or a foot rub before or after sex.  Giving someone a back rub can most certainly lead to sexual intimacy whether or not you are already in a relationship.  Hmmm…if giving your beloved a back rub can lead to more exciting adventures, then how about going a step further and giving him/her a full body sensual massage?  Unsure of just how to go about that?  Keep reading…

1.     Prepare
o   Make sure your hands are clean and your nails trimmed and smooth. (You may choose to go a step further and share a shower or bath together first.  You can even wash each other)
o   Both of you should remove your jewelry.
o   Place two sheets or blankets on the bed, the floor or a massage table if you happen to have one.  If the room is cool, be sure to use a blanket or flannel sheets.  Your lover will lie between these two sheets/blankets.
o   Do your best to adjust the temperature of the room to around 70°.
o   Have a pillow (a roll pillow if possible) to place under the backs of his/her knees when on the back and under the fronts of the ankles when on the stomach.
o   You might want to gather some rose petals (or other flower petals) to rub across your lover’s skin as you massage him/her. 
o   Set the lighting low, use soft music, and add a gentle scent such as lavender or use lightly scented oil.   
o   Be certain your goal is to honor your sweetheart.  Focus on giving to him/her.  The ultimate goal isn’t really about sex, but instead communicating to your partner how you feel about him/her through touch.  If this leads to lovemaking, then go for it – just don’t offer a sensual massage with that as your sole purpose.

2.     Get naked – Since this is a private and loving sensual massage both of you should become fully naked.  This is another good reason to adjust the room temperature.  You may choose to blindfold your partner.  When one of the senses is taken out of the equation the other senses are heightened.  This can enhance the massage.  Yet, you may also choose to use body parts other than your hands to massage your lover.  If you do that, it can be quite visually stimulating to allow your lover to watch you oil the part of your body you are going to use on him/her.
3.     Start with the back – The normal order of giving a massage starts with your partner lying face down and you begin rubbing the back.  Only uncover that area so as to keep your lover warm.  If you are massaging the back, then fold the top sheet to his/her waist.  Typically, you will move from the back to the legs and then the feet.  Oh, don’t forget the buttocks.  But, remember not to get carried away.  This isn’t about copping a feel.  Remember to respect your lover and give him/her the pleasure he/she desires.  Have your partner turn over and then work more on the legs and feet.  Then move to the arms, hands, neck, and shoulders. **Throughout the entire massage always maintain contact with your lover’s body even when moving the sheet and moving to a different part of his/her body.  And, warm the oil in your hands before placing it upon your sweetie’s vulnerable skin.  As you begin your massage be sure to start out with a light gentle touch.  You may choose to increase pressure as you proceed.  

4.     Be present and fully aware – It is very important to pay attention to your sweetie.  Watch his/her body to see how it responds to your touch.  Are those goose bumps from being cold or from the way you are touching that beautiful body?  Listen to his/her responses.  Are those moans of relaxation or as you continue do they become moans of sexual pleasure?  Or, on the other hand is your partner trying to let you know he/she is uncomfortable?  This experience is far more enjoyable for you both if you stay in the moment – stay present.  If what you have to do at work pops into your head, recognize it, appreciate it, then take a deep breath and let it go as you exhale.  Refocus on the body beneath your hands.

5.     Use your body – Using your forearm, your feet, your lips, your tongue, your face, your chest, your buttocks, or your genitalia can add a whole new level to the massage.  As mentioned above, allowing your lover to watch you oil some of these areas on your body prior to rubbing them all over him/her can be very erotic.  Don’t leave out the other tools your body possesses.   

6.     Overlooked places - You can give him/her a scalp massage.  This is beautiful tension reliever.  Gently rubbing and lightly scratching stimulates the scalp and increases the energy flow.  This truly can bring your partner to a state of blissful relaxation.  Your lover may, also, enjoy you rubbing your thumbs gently inside the ear.  For many people, the inside as well as the outside of the ear offers very erotic sensations.  If your partner is open to a chest massage, gently move yours hands in circling motions over the breasts.  Move your hands in opposite directions moving away from each other.  After seven or eight circles reverse directions.  Also, don’t forget the inside of the upper arm, the inner wrist, the backs of the knees, and the palms.  Oh wait, there is more.  How about his/her face, the collarbone (can be quite sensitive as the skin is so thin there), and around the anklebones – inside and outside of ankle.  If your lover is comfortable with it, you can massage the gluteal cleft (the butt crack).  Start at the top with small clockwise circles.  Then begin to stroke up and down the cleft.  Also, consider massaging around the outside of the anus without penetration.

7.     Moving to erotic massage – The gluteal cleft leads us to taking this sensual massage to the next level.  Massaging your partner’s genitals may seem obvious, but again do this with your focus being on honoring his/her body and communicating through touch how you feel about it.  Massaging the g-spot or the prostate can be a climatic end to the massage your offer your lover. 

These quick tips can get your started on your adventurous journey of sharing a sensual massage with your lover.  We hope you take them to heart and enjoy them.

Copyright 2012
Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D., Soul Collaboration Guide and Sacred & Sensual Teacher
Rob Alex, M.Sc., Sacred & Sensual Teacher

Originally posted on Get Lusty for Couples :)
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