Be Present - Tip of The Week Video

Today we shared about being present with your lover!

You can transform your relationship with this one simple step.

Q&A How Can I Tell My Lover How I Really Feel?

How can I let my husband (or wife) know that what he does upsets me?  I never seem to say it right without sounding like a nag or I simply beat around the bush and never get to my actual point.  Help!

We talked in this episode about four ways to let your lover know how you feel, but without coming across aggressively, which can make your sweetie go on the defensive or feel like you are yelling at or reprimanding him/her.

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Sex Scene Ice Cream? Hmmm..

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This Wacky Wednesday episode is hilarious!!!  Our main topic that we discuss is a product we just came across called Sex Scene Ice Cream.  We talked about the variety of flavors too.  Actually, our conversation went from this new sexy ice cream to sexual olympics - oh my!   A friend of ours was visiting and we invited her to join in the conversation for this episode - so this week was a little different.  We had a blast sharing - laughed so hard we had tears in our eyes.  We hope you listen in and enjoy your own laughter at our hilarity and at the same time we hope you check out this new product we have found.

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Daily Life Isn't Always Sexy

Daily life may not always be sexy, but it can still be funny and enjoyable.  We talked on this episode about how you just can't expect every day of your life to be the sexiest and most exciting day.  Sometimes life needs cleaned up or is a little stinky.

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Why More Than One Tradition within Sacred Sensual Practice?

We were recently asked why we have chosen to blend different traditions and religious practices into our spiritual and sacred practice.  What is the reason and what are the benefits?

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Erotic Arts and Crafts?

Last Wednesday we talked about homemade bondage, which led us to discover even more wacky creations.  Did you know that in Canada they actually have an annual erotic arts and crafts fair?  In this episode we talk about crocheted pasties and tassels from http://www.sexonastitch.com as well as a number of other things that can be found via http://www.eroticartsandcrafts.com.  These items range from the above mentioned sexy crocheted items to paintings to fancy shmancy underwear.  Listen in to hear about these unique items.

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Signs From the Masters

We share with you some amazing signs that we keep getting. We are here for you and to spread an amazing message in this world. Our mission is to lift couples up, help them deepen their bond emotionally, physically and spiritually. We have been and continue to be guided to do this profound work. One of the signposts that shows up for us time and time again on almost a daily basis is the number 33 or 333. These occurrences leave us in awe and with a sense of amazement!

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The proof blew even us away!

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Unique Spin the Bottle Idea (Not for kids)

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Give the age-old game of Spin the Bottle a new twist with this Sexy Challenge. Can you control where the bottle will be pointing when it stops spinning? Can your lover? Amazing and spicy experiences can transpire for the two of you when you take your turn at spinning your very own proverbial bottle. This challenge offers you a variety of new ways to experience a game you may likely have played in your youth. Give it a whirl and enjoy some excitingly new intimate play with your sweetheart. 

Homemade Bondage?? Just What Was Mom/Grandma Crocheting?

We recently talked about something we heard about during one of our meetup groups (Sex and Relationship Talk for Singles).  We decided to share this funny and innovative idea with you via one of our Wacky Wednesday episodes of Sexy Challenge Heartbeats.   

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Last Longer - Tips via our Podcast

Many people out there wish their sex could last longer.  This can become a real problem if one of you cannot last long enough for the other one to reach that point of pleasure.   While lasting longer is usually something men need to focus on it can sometimes be something that both partners need to focus upon.  Join us as we give you some suggestions and tips on how to make your lovemaking last longer.  We would love tackle your questions. So, if you have any, send them to sexychallenges@gmail.com.

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Become an Animal and Make Love to Your Partner?

On this podcast we talk about the fetish or role play that is called "furries".  Being a Furrie requires you to dress in an animal costume during your sexual intimacy.  Now this can be a very basic form of dressing up to a very costly one where the costumes can cost thousands of dollars.  Listen in as we weigh in with our views and we would love you to do the same.  Send your comments of suggestions for new shows to sexychallenges@gmail.com.

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Guys! Last Longer with Tantric Methods

So, guys would you like to last longer? Do you want to delay your climax? We are going to share with you a few different things that you can use to delay when you ejaculate. Once you practice and become skilled with these methods, you will be able to choose when and if you ejaculate. Make note that you can still orgasm even when you don’t ejaculate, but we are not suggesting that you don’t at all. We are just offering you a few techniques that you can use to make that choice for yourself. **Ejaculation is healthy for the prostate and your ejaculate also has healing properties; therefore your partner may benefit from it if you are fluid bonded. (Fluid bonded, if you don’t know, means you exchange bodily fluids during intercourse.)

Consider for a moment climbing a mountain. If you were to set out with only the goal of reaching the peak, which would be the climax of your hike, you would miss out on a lot of amazing sites and experiences along the way. There is no need to rush to the top. Instead, stop along the way (or at least slow down for a bit) and take in the whole experience.

Get in Tune w/Your Body

One of the most powerful ways to control your climax is to be in tune with your own body. Know how it feels when you are getting close. Pay attention to your breathing, know your limits, and be willing to change things up. You can certainly practice with your lover, but it can be quite helpful to practice alone via masturbation too. When practicing, choose one or two of the methods below (depending on how skilled you may already be at some) and consciously practice that particular technique during a lovemaking or masturbation session. Remember practice makes perfect. If it doesn’t work in the beginning, try, try again. 

Eye Gaze
If you are with your lover, you can open your eyes and stare deeply into his/her eyes. Focus on the emotions you are feeling at that moment. This can help you take focus away from your physical sensations and offers you an opportunity to take a step back from the brink.

Breathe
This goes along with being in tune with your body, but be aware of your breathing. Slow it down. Take long, slow inhalations and release those deep breaths just as slowly. This will also help slow your heart rate a bit. The blood won’t be pumping quite as quickly then to your manhood.

Focus on Your Lover’s Pleasure

You can take the focus away from yourself and put it into pleasuring your lover. Become fully aware of what his/her responses are and what makes him/her feel pleasure. Bringing your lover to orgasm should be very exciting for you, but if it is going to lead you too close to your climax, then move back a bit from his/her orgasm and tease and play more for a while.

Change Positions
Having sex in the same position over and over again can become monotonous and boring anyway. Here is a perfect reason to switch positions. When you feel yourself nearing climax or if you know a particular position will take you there rather quickly, then make love in a different position. Try something new or do a different position that you already know the two of you enjoy.

Penis Squeeze
When nearing climax squeeze the tip of the penis just below the head. As you do this also pull the testes down and away from your body. You may need to do this for up to 30 seconds. If your erection lessens, don’t worry. You should be able to get it back as soon as you focus on your pleasure again.

Full Body Engagement
One final technique we will share with you today is a little more complex. When you are nearing climax, stop, hold your breath, tighten your perineum and your anus, touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth, and look upward with your eyes. Hold this position as long as you can. Then release it. If you tremble or spasm all over, you have just experienced a full-­‐body orgasm without ejaculating.

There are a number of ways to delay and/or control your climax. Extended foreplay is another beautiful method that many men practice. Yet, when you are new to this experience it will take time just like anything else. The first time you tried to walk you only took a couple of steps and then flopped down again, but you kept trying – didn’t you. Allow yourself (and your lover) to enjoy practicing any and/or all of the above techniques. Have fun and explore this new territory.

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D.
Rob Alex, M.Sc. 
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15 Minutes to Amazing Tantric Sex

Taking your sex life to a higher level and deeper level simultaneously through Tantric practices begins outside of the sexual act. It really is about fully blending the masculine and feminine within you – your Shiva and Shakti as well as blending your soul with your lover’s. When you can come together and no longer are consciously aware of where you end and your lover begins you can experience Mahamudra or a total blending with the Universe as a whole. Yes, you will still be able to tell your physical bodies apart from one another, but the sensation of melding your soul with your lover’s soul and even on a Universal level in which you sense a blending with All is an orgasmic experience that is like no other and it cannot be described in human language. But, how can you move towards the potentiality of such levels of sensuality, sexuality and orgasmic experience?

It doesn’t have to take vast amounts of sexual experience or a deep spiritual practice to open the doors to these new levels. Such things can be beneficial, but are not absolutely necessary. We are about to share with you a few things you can do that will take no more than 15 minutes – unless, of course, you choose to spend more time on them.

Before we share them, it is vitally important for you to understand that as you go into these exercises, activities, or moments that you have no set goal in mind. Be open to accepting whatever experience you have as the one you are meant to have. It does not need to be like someone else’s. It is your experience. Just as no two of us are identical no two of our experiences should be expected to be identical either. Furthermore, the experience you have on one occasion may be quite different from the experience you have doing the very same activity at a different time or on a different day or in a different place. Do not expect sex, orgasm, climax, or spectacular fireworks. Just remain open to what comes through for you. Do not expect anything of your partner either. Place attention on your lover, but with no expectations. Open your heart and your soul and just be and just allow the moment to just be.

Set Time Aside

The first step is to set 15 minutes aside for the two of you to focus on one another, to practice these following exercises/activities, and to willingly let your guard down. (Remember to focus on yourself during this time, too.)

Create a Safe and Sacred Space

This can be as simple as turning the lights down low or lighting some candles or lighting a fire in the fireplace. You may choose to play music softly in the background (music you both enjoy – with or without lyrics, sounds of nature, tribal beats, etc.). Lay a soft blanket on the floor or join one another in the center of your bed. Surround yourself with only things that support the two of you. Take down any pictures or put away any items that bother you in any way. Remove any clutter from the area.

Yab Yum

One partner will sit cross-­‐legged while the other partner will sit facing him/her.
The second partner will wrap his/her legs around the first partner’s waist. This yab yum position will place you face-­‐to-­‐face and chest-­‐to-­‐chest. If this is uncomfortable for you, adjust it so that it works for you. Perhaps, crossing your legs isn’t comfy or sitting on your lover that way doesn’t work for you. Change it. You can also sit in two chairs facing one another – close enough for your knees to touch or even close enough so that you place your feet in between your lover’s. If you can, wrap your arms around each other. Otherwise, hold hands. Place your foreheads together (the third eye kiss) and just breathe. Remain like this for 3-­‐5 minutes. Simply hold this gentle, quiet space for each other. Notice your lover’s breathing. Notice your own. Pay attention to the way he/she feels as you are touching. Then notice how you feel physically and emotionally. When (if) outside things pop into your head – work, kids, the dog – just acknowledge them and then return your focus to the moment.

Honoring Through Your Kiss

You can remain in the yab yum (or your version) position or you can shift positions. Again, this is about each of you and your experience. Spend the next 3-­‐5 minutes kissing your sweetheart. These kisses do not need to be hot and sexy. They can be gentle and sweet. They don’t have to be open-­‐mouthed or even have to be on the lips though know that the heart is literally connected to the tongue physically as well as spiritually. Take turns kissing one another. Allow your kisses to reflect how you feel about him/her, how you want to treat him/her, and how you feel about and want to treat your relationship overall.

Communication Via Eye Gaze and Touch

While you are either in yab yum or simply facing each other look into your partner’s eyes. We often get so busy that we forget to do this, and I am not even talking about forgetting or overlooking the deep long look, but we can easily just barely make eye contact at all. Looking into your lover’s eyes helps connect the two of you. Sometimes, especially if you haven’t done this for a while, gazing directly into his/her eyes for a couple of minutes can feel like a staring contest. If it makes you uncomfortable, just start out with what works for you. Gaze lovingly into your sweetie’s eyes until you feel the need to look elsewhere. Then shift your gaze, roaming your eyes over his/her body. Take notice of all of him/her – ears, cheeks, lips, nose, hair, shoulders, neck, etc. You can also trail your fingers along as you move your gaze along the body. When you are ready look into the eyes again even if your partner is not looking into your eyes. Eventually, your gaze will draw his/hers back to you. Continue to move through this experience together for 3-­‐5 minutes.

See how easy it can be to move into a different space with your lover? If you can dedicate to trying these activities a couple of times a week (or even just once a week to start), you will begin to notice a transformation in your relationship. This doesn’t have to be complicated, and remember to let your expectations go. Let it be what it is for the two of you.

Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D. Rob Alex, M.Sc. 
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How Can I Attract True Love?

We here over and over again how much individuals want to be in a relationship.  Of course, not all singles want a partner, but millions do.  Our focus is on couples, but as we are so often asked "how can I find true love" we are also now helping those individuals attract the rich, deep love with a partner they so desire.  A relationship filled with powerful, playful passion that offers a safe, supportive, and loving space is phenomenal.  And, there are a number of ways to attract that kind of relationship into your life.

Listen in to here a bit more about that and jump over to http://www.sexychallenges.com under programs to discover more about Attract[ing] True Love.

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Attract True Love

Attract True Love 

~Find the rich love you desire.~

~Discover powerful, playful, passion.~

~Be who YOU are and attract who desires YOU.~

~Feel loved, safe, valued and supported.~

~Find a friend in your lover.~

~Recognize intimate relationship is a spiritual path.~

~Make room for soulful companionship.~

~Fulfill your heart's desires - your dreams - your wishes.~

Do you want a red-hot relationship?  

Are you ready for a new way to find it?

Yes!  What we teach is outside the box, but we work with you and develop a plan that fits where you are right now, what you are comfortable with, and we help you expand your awareness so that you can discover the synchronistic and serendipitous events that will begin showing up.  

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As we mentioned just above, we meet you where you are (emotionally, mentally, and spiritually).  We will get to know you and ask questions before putting a personalized plan together for you.  

Through heart-stirring conversation, communication, and exercises we teach you the skills to create a sustainable, loving, sensual and magickal relationship.

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