In Un-Hinged: What I Learned from Saying, “It’s You, It’s Not Me” in the NYC Dating Scene, Mariann Yip recounts her dating experiences from over a span of two years in New York City.
Written with the familiarity of Mariann telling her close girlfriends about her dates for the first time, each chapter presents a different suitor and dives into the lessons she learned. With each of the twelve men she discusses, she reveals the ups and downs of online dating, the realities of dating in a city like New York, and the personal development she experienced in her late twenties.
When it comes to dating, love exists and will come and go. It’s important to remember that finding love is a journey and takes patience and time. Your unique dating experience is valid, and the way your relationship ends does not define your worth or what you deserve. And, most importantly, you should never settle, because oftentimes, honey, it’s them―it’s not you.
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Available Now: Un-Hinged: What I Learned from Saying, "It's You, It's Not Me" in the NYC Dating Scene
March 1, 2022, New York City: Mariann Yip is delighted to announce the pre-order of her first book, Un-Hinged: What I Learned from Saying, "It's You, It's Not Me" in the NYC Dating Scene. Learn how crazy dating experiences led to self-discovery, self-development, and self-love for this native New Yorker. Her close girlfriends encouraged her to write the book during the pandemic because her dating experiences were unique, unpredictable, and entertaining. Her stories offer a fresh lens to the reality of dating in a busy and big city like New York and is a modern take on “Sex and the City.”
"While I was dating all of these men, I was also dating myself in the process."
— Mariann Yip, from Un-Hinged
Yip navigated her mid to late 20s at the heart of it all, in the city that never sleeps. Dating in New York City offers a pool of endless options. Coming across men with different backgrounds and personalities made it an adventure and a chance for self-exploration.
"Had I not put myself out there and had not said yes to all these men, I wouldn't have had the crazy experiences I did. And to be honest, looking back, they actually make me smile because I can now pinpoint who Mariann was when she was dating as a single woman in NYC." — Mariann Yip
Yip recalls her experiences in a raw and authentic way, as if she was telling her story for the first time to her girlfriends. Every chapter dives into the lessons she’s learned from each suitor. Un-Hinged also touches on the role of therapy in her life. Yip applied the lessons learned from her therapy sessions to her relationships and dates. Other major themes of the book include the importance in healing past wounds, recognizing patterns, and the power of boundaries, self-awareness and self-love.
Letting Go of Control to Let Love In
It can be hard to find love when you are comparing your timeline to others. Letting go of control and expectations is a liberating way to see the bigger picture of life and love. Un-Hinged: What I Learned from Saying, "It's You, It's Not Me" in the NYC Dating Scene is meant to inspire anyone looking for genuine love.
Aside from giving a sneak peek into the real dating scene in NYC, the book is relatable to all women and highlights the struggles of matching with a stranger on a dating app, the analysis of men with their best friends, the thought processing before going on a date, etc. Un-Hinged is a reminder for those looking to find their person that they are more than their relationship status and their worth is not defined by an online dating profile.
“When all else fails, you can resort to the saying, “It’s you, it’s not me,” and just keep trucking along, because I’m here with you. Your girl’s got you.”
— Mariann Yip
Un-Hinged: What I Learned from Saying, "It's You, It's Not Me" in the NYC Dating Scene is available for now at https://www.un-hinged.com. It is also available at Amazon.com, Barnes and Noble and Mascot Books.
Mariann Yip is a native New Yorker and was born and raised in the Lower East Side in the beautiful city that never sleeps. She is a lifestyle and travel blogger who shares tips and travel adventures at www.mariannyc.com. She hosts the podcast The City Confessions, in which she leads ongoing discussions with other New York residents to share their truths and stories. Mariann’s mission is to create a safe platform for storytelling and to normalize pain, struggle, and vulnerability.
