The body changes drastically from the moment of
conception. And, those changes continue
not only through the next nine to ten months, but for weeks and possibly months
after your new bundle of joy arrives.
Women are beautiful, sensual and sexual creatures. Yet, for many, once they discover they are
pregnant the idea of being sensual or sexual quickly evaporates.
There are many reasons that this may be the case. “Morning sickness”, new hormones running
rampant, weight gain, an unsupportive partner, the upcoming financial strain of
a new child, your body image, and other health concerns are all potential
reasons that you may not feel sensual or sexy during all or part of your pregnancy. So, is it even really possible to have a
sensual pregnancy? Yes!
First of all, be aware that being sensual does not
necessarily mean the same thing as being sexual. Sensuality is about gratifying the
senses. Become more fully present in the
moment and become fully aware of your body and your emotions.
While pregnant your sense of smell and sense of taste may
very well become heightened. Eating
delicious foods, especially ones you may have cravings for, can be shared with
your lover. Savor in your heightened
taste sensations. Slowly bite into that
fresh piece of fruit. Take your time
lifting the spoon to your mouth, close your lips around it and slowly remove it
as you pull this wonderfully delicious treat onto your tongue. Allow a soft, pleasure-filled moan to escape
from your throat. It doesn’t matter if
you are early on in your pregnancy with no baby bump or if you are nine months
along and your yummy food is balanced on your baby belly instead of the table. Your lover is likely to get turned on by your
sensual eating. You can add to the
experience by having him/her feed you these tasty bites. You can even choose to close your lips around
his/her fingers as you are fed.
As your tummy begins to grow be proud of it instead of
insecure about your expanding girth. Opt
for clothing that accentuates your baby bump instead of wearing big, sloppy
clothing in an attempt to hide it. This
is a special time in your life, whether planned or not. Take into consideration that not everyone can
offer a baby a safe and sacred space to grow in. Yet, here you are doing just that. Honoring the rigorous, yet divine, work your
body is capable of is beautiful. Wearing
attractive clothing is always a great way to help you feel more sensual and
sexier. Being pregnant doesn’t change
that. There are a lot of
spouses/partners who find pregnant women highly attractive. Together, you created a child, therefore,
together you can relish in the sexy changes in your body.
Being pregnant means your body is increasing its blood flow
and increasing the secretions from oil glands.
These changes are what help give you that pregnancy “glow”. Your cheeks may be pinker and your skin
shimmers from the extra oil. You also
glow energetically. We all emit light
energy. It is our life force
energy. You may better understand it as
your aura. Now, consider that you are
carrying another life inside of you and his/her little life force energy is
also emitting light. It is no wonder
that you seem to “glow” during pregnancy because you really are glowing. And, more often than not others are drawn to
the light. This means you may be even
more attractive to some than normal.
Look at yourself in the mirror.
Run your hands over your body and feel the difference in your skin. Allow your lover to do the same. Together you can celebrate the new life your
lovemaking is bringing into the world.
Oftentimes, as your body grows heavy with child you may
really want and/or need a foot rub, a back rub or even a tummy rub. This is a beautiful time to experience a
sensual massage from your honey. He/she
can enjoy exploring the changes in your body as you relax and focus on the
sensation of his/her touch. If the two
of you progress to a more intimate sensual massage, you can release oxytocin
and thereby ease any pregnancy pain you may have been experiencing. As you probably already know, as you become
sexually aroused the body releases this feel-good hormone. But, did you know that with the increased
blood flow, your labia may become engorged during these months. This offers the potential for a new orgasmic
experience.
Feeling sensual and sharing in lovemaking with your beloved
are not only things you can and should enjoy during your pregnancy, but they
are very beneficial for you, your lover, and your unborn baby. For women, pleasure and orgasm are excellent
for mental and emotional health as well as physical health. In fact, as you are preparing for labor and
delivery, know that semen has a hormone called relaxin, which softens the cervix
and lengthens the pelvic ligaments. This
hormone can be received orally as well.
What a great way to encourage and assist your baby’s entrance into the
world.
Experiencing sensuous pleasure throughout your pregnancy can
lead to a quicker and easier delivery.
It doesn’t guarantee it, but either way you can relish in the sensuality
of your pregnancy. Wait! You don’t feel like having sex with your
partner? No problem. You do not have to have intercourse. You can experience pleasure orally. You can pleasure yourself.
Of course, due to the increased hormonal activity in the
body many women find themselves feeling far more sensual as well as more
sexually aroused throughout their pregnancy.
You may or may not be one of those women, but you can increase your
sensuality simply by honoring you, your body and the changes that are taking
place.
Experiencing and enjoying your sensuality and your sexuality
throughout your pregnancy will help your body prepare for the birth. This can also deepen the intimate bond with
your partner.
One final note for you – while you are in labor if you
visualize making love to your sweetheart, you will actually be helping yourself
to relax vaginally. This is a natural
way to offer yourself assistance during this experience and may even lead you
to have an orgasmic birth.
(*Only participate in sexual
activity if your heart is healthy enough and you are not experiencing any other
serious health issues.)
Copyright 2012
Dr. Janelle Alex, Ph.D., Soul Collaboration Guide &
Sacred Sensual Teacher
Rob Alex, M.Sc., Sacred Sensual Teacher
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